How To Get Out Of A Bad First Date

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There can be a lot of buildup before a first date: What will they be like? Will there be chemistry? What will we talk about? And sometimes the first date is just as magical and spark-filled as you hoped it would be. But sometimes it's not. Sometimes it's really, really not. The last thing you want to do on a bad date is stick around, sitting there for hours in a sea of awkwardness. But how do you get out of a bad date without hurting someone's feelings?

Luckily, a bad first date is often easier to maneuver out of than if you've gone out with the person once or twice already. They don't know you at all yet, so you can use any excuse that comes to mind and they won't know if it's unrealistic. They don't have anything invested, so you should feel free to make a move if you're just not feeling it.

Even though having a bad first date can feel kind of crappy, remember that it doesn't have to get you down. Yes, they can be frustrating and a little disheartening, but really bad dates can also be kind of hilarious. "There are successful comedians who make entire careers off of bad dates," New York–based relationship and etiquette expert of Relationship Advice Forum, April Masini, tells Bustle. "Call your best friends and laugh about how bad the date was. ... You can all share and laugh about the worst dates ever, [then] the actual dates don’t seem so bad. They seem funny."

As funny as they may be, you might not want them to last forever. So here's how you can get out of a bad first date — as fast as you need to.