Almost everyone has had at least one bad first date. You see them in movies, you hear about them in songs, and how many times has a friend called or texted you only to start with, "You're not going to believe how bad this date went?" I have texted those words dozens of times, but to this day, the date that will always get the "bad" label in bold, will be the guy who got so drunk on our date he asked, "Do you want to see me smash my head into that brick wall?" My friends still bring that up.
But while bad first dates can definitely be entertaining, make for fantastic brunch-time fodder, and you're likely to never forget them, either because it was that bad or because your friends won't let you, in the moment — and in the moments after the fact — it's important to not let a bad first date get to you.
"When you’ve been in one bad relationship after another, it’s easy to think that the whole thing just isn’t worth your time and energy," New York–based relationship and etiquette expert of Relationship Advice Forum, April Masini, tells Bustle. "But when you break your own pattern of dating the wrong people and choose someone who treats you right, you’ll learn that relationships are worth the time and energy. You just have to be with the right person."
Unfortunately, you may need to go on a lot of dates — some of them bad — to find the right person. So here are seven tips for not letting a bad first date get to you.