Finding out that your partner has cheated can do a number on your self-esteem. It's hard not to get into a negative headspace when you're trying to figure out why it happened to you. But don't let yourself fall into that trap. According to experts, there are simple and empowering ways you can recover after your partner cheats.
As author and therapist, Connie Omari, LPC, tells Bustle, it's so easy to feel down on yourself after being cheated on because we often internalize feelings of rejection. "As women, we have been normalized to feel responsible for the behaviors of others," she says. "Therefore, when we are betrayed, we often internalize this as some error on our part."
There are so many different ways to cope after being cheated on. According to Omari, some people may try to change themselves by working on their physical appearance or shifting their way of thinking and tolerating bad behavior. But these are some things you should never do after you find out your partner cheated.
"These behaviors reduce your value and condone the bad behavior of a partner who does not deserve you," Omari says. "Instead, firmly hold the position that you are not responsible for somebody else’s shortcomings and do what it takes for you to feel better."
Feeling better may not come easily. But if you give it a try, it can happen. So here are some empowering ways you can recover after your partner cheats, according to experts.