15 Common Mistakes To Avoid Making When Trying To Heal After Cheating

After a major betrayal of trust in your relationship, it might feel like a challenge to move on as a couple. And, in some instances, it will be. But if you and your partner decide to stay together after cheating, work on things, rebuild trust, and see yourselves through this rough patch, you certainly can. All it takes is time, effort, and an awareness of the most common mistakes couples make after a betrayal of trust.

And one of the biggest may be assuming things will be like they once were. "I often tell my clients that our work is not going to be about getting them back to how their relationship was but rather creating a new relationship for them," clinical psychologist Dr. Piper S. Grant, PsyD, MPH tells Bustle. "This takes time, communication, openness within themselves and each other, and the ability to tolerate one's own feelings while hearing the other's feelings."

By accepting that things may be different now, and that you may be creating a new relationship for yourselves, it can be possible to move on. It's also important to be aware of other pitfalls, such as sharing too much information about the cheating (that's a big no), or rushing through the process. Mistakes like these can actually make moving on more difficult, as well as needlessly painful. Read on for a few ways couples hold themselves back from healing after cheating, so you'll know just what to stay away from.