How To Save Your Relationship, According To An Expert


Sometimes a relationship needs saving. Whether it's because someone strayed, the couple lost their focus, or somewhere along the line the relationship got stale, saving a relationship can become necessary. Especially if the two people involved know that ending it isn't the best option — and in some cases it isn't.

When it comes to saving a relationship, according to findings by Google, people turn to their search engine for answers. In 2017, of all the relationship-related questions that were plugged into Google, "how to save your relationship" was number five on the list of the top 10, so it's definitely something people in relationships are curious about or experiencing.

While some relationships should definitely end, others shouldn't just be rescued, but fought for. Romantic relationships take work and sometimes when one person — or both people — haven't been putting in the work, it'll take some effort to bring things back if that's what both of you want. And if you do, you'll want to kick things off with a positive attitude.

"It’s so easy to slip into a negative mindset, where all we see are the things that our partner isn’t doing versus what they are doing," Anita A. Chlipala, LMFT, and author of First Comes Us: The Busy Couple's Guide to Lasting Love, tells Bustle. "Have a surplus of positive interactions with your partner. Any uplifting words or actions can start a positive cycle. Acknowledge each other’s efforts, joke around, compliment often, and show appreciation."

So since the question is being asked a lot and is clearly on many people's minds, here are nine ways to save your relationship.