How To Set Boundaries Within Your Relationship, According To Experts

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Boundaries are part of every relationship, romantic and otherwise, whether you formally set them up or not. Sometimes, they're laid out step-by-step, while, other times, they are born of habits that then stick and become the boundary norm between you and your partner. Yet other times, they are followed for a while, so to speak, and then the boundaries become blurred, which can cause stress in a relationship. Of course, one obvious solution is to talk about them with your partner. If you're ready to create boundaries within your relationship, it's not too difficult — starting will probably be the most challenging part of all, as well as following through with them.

"All personal relationships require boundaries," Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. (aka "Dr. Romance"), psychotherapist, and author of How to be Happy Partners: Working it out Together, tells Bustle. "Boundaries are the limits you place on how much others can ask of you, verbally or otherwise. If you don't discuss boundaries in advance, resentment builds up, and that can cause arguments and fighting."

Like Dr. Tessina says, I'm sure you can think of some examples where resentment has built up — I know I can. And even if you and your partner already have relationship boundaries in place, there's nothing wrong with refreshing them and making sure both of your expectations are aligned. Below, relationship experts give ideas on how to create and maintain boundaries.