How To Tell If You’re Giving Too Much In A Relationship & How To Pull Back

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If you're naturally a loving and affectionate person, giving a lot to your partner and relationship just happens. More often than not, you don't even think about it. You're thoughtful, you're accommodating, and you're always there for your partner whenever they need you. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Unfortunately, being super giving can backfire on you when you realize that your partner isn't giving you as much in return. So what can you do when your relationship is out of balance?

According to experts, it's important to know that a "balanced relationship" never equals 50-50. As love and relationship coach, Emyrald Sinclaire, tells Bustle, "Often times one partner will give more than they receive. But on the flip side, you'll receive more than you give when you need it." There will be times when one partner needs to give more than the other. That's common.

Trying to achieve a perfectly balanced partnership is another relationship ideal you should get rid of. Instead, you should aim for having a well-balanced life that includes your relationship in it. In doing so, Jane Reardon, LA-based licensed therapist and founder of RxBreakup app, tells Bustle, your relationship will be happy and healthier.

"A healthy relationship doesn’t require your attention 24/7," Reardon says. There's no score-keeping or manipulating your partner to do their fair share of work. "A truly balanced partnership deals with a great deal of compromise as well as showing the willingness to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work."

If you feel like you've been giving too much into your relationship, here are some expert-backed ways to pull yourself back.