Breaking up is hard enough, but getting over a breakup and really moving on is the real challenge. "There is an art to breaking up with someone," Audrey Hope, a celebrity relationship expert, tells Bustle. "If you do what needs to be done, you can sail through it." But there's a lot to be done. You have to get over the person, you have to get over the circumstances of the breakup — which are often unpleasant— and you have to put yourself back together enough to eventually get back out there.
The real problem is that it's not always easy to tell that you're over all of it. You've probably seen people who say they're ready to move on, only to start ranting about their ex on a date — or breakdown altogether. It's hard to gauge how you're actually feeling about it, especially because one of the ways we often get over a breakup is to tell ourselves we're over it, before you actually are.
So instead, if you want to know if you're really ready to move on, it's important to take a look at yourself and how you're actually dealing with your breakup. Here are the questions you need to ask yourself if you want to know if you've actually gotten over it.