If you've been dating for a while with little success, knowing your zodiac sign can actually be pretty helpful. For instance, you can get an idea of who you're most compatible with, what you need to do in order to bring your best self out, and the different
ways you may be sabotaging your dating life. "When you know astrology, you know more about yourself and you can understand other people more clearly," astrologer Judi Vitale tells Bustle.
And astrology can be weirdly accurate. But if you really want to utilize the stars in order to gain insight into your life, Vitale says it's super important to never use your zodiac sign as an excuse. For instance, if you’re a sensitive Cancer who's prone to mood swings, you can't just excuse your moods by saying, "Well, that's just the way I am." Instead, you should take the knowledge of what you've learned about yourself through astrology and make an effort to do better.
Vitale says being aware of astrology gives you more insight into yourself — as well as how you can connect with other signs. So here are ways you may be sabotaging your dating life based on your zodiac sign, and the best advice for you going forward.
Aries (March 21 - April 19): You're Too Impatient
"Too much, too fast" are four small words that describe the typical Aries pretty well. Since
Aries is a fire sign whose ruling planet is Mars, you're all about making those big bold actions. When you want something (or someone), you're unstoppable. But you might be sabotaging your dating life by being a little too excited, a little too passionate, and a little too impatient with the the pacing of your relationship or your love life as a whole. The best dating advice for you: Remember that not everyone likes to take it a fast pace. "Go out to dinner first," Vitale says. "Take it slow and be OK with getting to know your partner gradually." Taurus (April 20 - May 20): You're Too Habitual
People born under
Taurus make great partners due to the fact that their ruling planet is Venus— the planet of beauty and love. As a Taurus, you know what you like, you know what makes you comfortable and you stick to it. There's really nothing wrong with liking a routine. However, when it comes to dating, sticking to the one or two things you know you like can make things a little boring. The best dating advice for you: Mix it up! "Be willing to listen to your partner’s idea on where to have fun and be open to the fun possibilities," Vitale says. Gemini (May 21 - June 20): You Have A Wandering Eye
One of the really great things about
being a Gemini is that you excel at communication. You're known to be charming, playful, intelligent, and have a lot to say. You have a ton of energy, you're very curious and your mind has a tendency to wander. If someone's on a date with you, it can be difficult to keep your attention if you're not fully interested. When that happens, your focus goes elsewhere, and it's usually to another person nearby. The best dating advice for you: "Focus on the one you’re with," Vitale says. Oh, and be sure to listen more! Cancer (June 21 - July 22): You Can Be A Little Too Sensitive
Cancers are total relationship material. You're known to be helpful, patient, nurturing, and romantic. Those are obviously great qualities to have. But, according to Vitale, you have a tendency to take your romantic nature a little too far. Sometimes you can be a little hypersensitive and also hovering.
The best dating advice for you: "Grow a thicker skin," Vitale says. "And please don't treat the person you’re dating like they're your baby." Leo (July 23 - August 22): You Need Too Much Attention
ruled by the Sun. So it's no wonder why you love having the spotlight on you. You make for a really great date because you're super fun and entertaining to be around. There's really no dull moment with you. Unfortunately, loving the spotlight can be a little too much for your date who might feel that you need a lot of attention in order to be happy. The best dating advice for you: "Spend time focusing on your partner, and don’t insist on one-upping them," Vitale says. Don't always make it about you. Virgo (August 23 - September 22): You Nit-pick A Lot
Virgos are earth signs that are
ruled by the planet of communication, Mercury. As a Virgo, you're dedicated, witty, and resourceful. All of which, are really great traits to have in a partner. You also tend to like things in a certain way, which can make you pretty uptight and critical. The best dating advice for you: Be more tolerant, Vitale says. Ask yourself: Do I really need to point out that piece of lint on their shirt? Chances are, not really. Libra (September 23 - October 22): You're Indecisive
As a Libra, you're charming, lovable, and hopelessly romantic, which all makes sense considering that
your ruling planet is Venus, the planet of love. While you love the idea of love, commitment, and partnership, you're also extremely indecisive. According to Vitale, Libras sabotage their dating lives because they can’t make decisions and get too hung up on having “the perfect romance." Sometimes figuring out who you want to be with or what you really want can be a struggle. The best dating advice for you: "Be more aware of what you want," Vitale says. "Also realize that people are 'just human.'" Scorpio (October 23 - November 21): You're Very Secretive
Scorpios are known for being
one of the sexiest signs in the zodiac. As a Scorpio, you're magnetic, passionate, and sometimes pretty intense. You even have this air of mystery around you that makes getting to know you super appealing. People just want to figure you out. However, you're not really about that. Being secretive and untrusting are a couple of ways you may be sabotaging your dating life. The best dating advice for you: "Make an effort to be more open," Vitale says. If you have a hard time opening up, it's OK to let your partner know you need to take things slowly. Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21): You're Too Hard To Pin Down
Sagittarius, like Aries and Leo, is another energetic fire sign. As a Sag, you're inspiring, dedicated, and you love nothing more than to laugh and flirt. As a date, you're fun and great to be around. However, when it's time to get a little serious and real, Vitale says, you tend to be "too hard to pin down." You also have a a tendency to make a joke out of everything.
The best dating advice for you: "Try to stay still long enough to get to know your partner," Vitale says. Also, be sure to take them seriously when the time calls for it. Capricorn (December 22 - January 19): You're A Little Too Serious
Capricorns are very earthy and like looking towards the future. As a Capricorn, you're hard working, goal-oriented and very family-minded. Because of that, you have the tendency to take your dating life a little too seriously. Also, as Vitale says, some Capricorns aren't too fond of cuddling. You're just not the touchiest bunch.
What you need to do: Let down your hair! It's OK to have fun. And try not to cringe when your date hugs you in public. Showing affection can be a good thing. Aquarius (January 20 - February 18): You Can Be Too Eccentric
Aquarians are air signs whose
ruling planet is Uranus. As an Aquarius, you're known for being communicative, open-minded, inviting, and above all, an original. You just do your own thing and that's really cool. However, you do have a tendency to be a little too eccentric and detached from reality. At times, you can also be a little judgmental towards others' ideas and opinions. The best dating advice for you: "You can be yourself without making a scene," Vitale says. Also, try to respect other people’s opinions, even when they're different from yours. Pisces (February 19 - March 20): You Can Be Too Needy
ruled by the planet of fantasy, Neptune. Because of that, you're dreamy, imaginative, and a romantic at heart. Unfortunately, your dreamy nature makes it easy for you to live in the realm of fantasy. You love to idealize your partner and your relationship. So it can be difficult to see reality for what it really is. You also have the tendency to be a little needy. What you need to do: "Take responsibility for your own life, and don’t give your power away," Vitale says. Most importantly, live in the moment as much as possible.
We all have our little things that make us great romantic partners, and other things that we can work on. Recognizing the ways you might be sabotaging your dating life is the first step to fixing any problems. Thankfully, we have astrology there to help us do just that.