When it comes to our most hated dating practices, the dreaded text message breakup perhaps only rivals ghosting. Here's an unpopular opinion, then: I've done it, and I think it was the right decision. And according to at least a few experts, I'm not totally misguided. It's not a great habit to get into, obviously, but there are situations when breaking up over text is acceptable, and there are ways to minimize the damage it does.
In my case, I'd gone on seven dates with the guy, so it was iffy whether we were out of the stage where you can end things over text. But I knew I wouldn't be able to get the words out in person, and since I was out of town for the week, waiting until I could see him again would only drag it out. In an ideal world, I would've gotten up the courage to do this over the phone. But we do everything over text these days, and if anything, using writing allowed me to choose my words more wisely.
So, while I was out drinking with friends, one of them convinced me to rip the Band-Aid off. I settled on this text:
Hi, I hope you're having a good week. I've had a great time getting to know you, but after thinking about it, I don't feel that we are right for each other. I wish you the best and think you deserve someone great.