Having amazing sex doesn't mean the same thing to everyone. What one person thinks is really great sex would be someone else's most uncomfortable sexual experience. And this this AskReddit thread shows exactly that. Basically, the people of Reddit decided to share what they thought was overrated in the bedroom — and the answers are pretty incredible. Because while some people brought up things that a lot of people think are too hyped — I'm looking at you, 69 — you can also see that one person's sex trash is another person's sex treasure. And that's the last time I use sex trash in a sentence.
But it's really interesting. It makes you see why sometimes, when you have sex with someone for the first time, you can wonder what the hell they think they're doing— and why anyone would find it pleasurable. I've always thought that sexual compatibility was just as important as skills in the bedroom. Looking at these, it seems like it may be even more important. So if you're not sure what your partner is into — or even if you think you know— make sure you talk about it.
"[Couples with healthy sex lives] have awkward conversations," sexologist and relationship expert Dr. Nikki Goldstein tells Bustle. "Often people can have sex but are scared to talk about it out of fear that might offend their partner or it might be awkward. In order to have a healthy sex life, you need to have sometimes awkward conversations about what might not be working in the bedroom or what you want more or less of."