Peter's Biggest 'Bachelorette' Flaw Isn't A Flaw At All

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I think I say this once a season, but because there is always one contestant who is on the fence about proposing, I’m going to say it again — there’s nothing wrong with not being ready to get engaged on The Bachelor or The Bachelorette. You can really like someone and want to spend more time with them and still not be able to put a ring on it after eight weeks! I say this because Peter is unsure about proposing to Rachel on The Bachelorette, and Rachel is almost scandalized.

Rachel’s been feeling wary of Peter's future plans for a few weeks now (though I would take anything from that man, because have you seen him?), and I think her doubts came to a head when Peter’s mom told Rachel that her son is definitely ready for a commitment. He may not be ready for a proposal quite yet, but he’s ready to choose one fine lady and stick with her for a while. If it leads to marriage, great! If not, well, that stinks, but it happens. Somehow, this gave Rachel “a lot to think about,” which makes this season of The Bachelorette the same as any other. I always fail to understand why thinking about a relationship is a bad thing. If you’re going to be married for your whole life, why is this a problem?

I understand that the aim of The Bachelor and The Bachelorette is to get married and live happily ever after, but considering the fact that many American marriages end in divorce even when they don’t start on reality television, why not give yourself a fighting chance and take the time? Peter’s hesitance isn’t selfish — it’s smart. He wants to make sure that he and Rachel are laying the correct groundwork for their future together. Peter is just too pragmatic for The Bachelorette (though I would sure take him as the next Bachelor). If this is the only thing that’s “wrong” with Peter, why not take a chance and see where it ends up, Rachel? There’s nothing to lose if you’re both on the same page — even if that doesn't mean a ring is exchanged at the end of this.