Girls has come to an end after six seasons of witty dialogue, flawed but dynamic characters, and hard life lessons. The season finale, entitled "Latching," stayed true to the show. It didn't sugar coat the reality of life or end with a pretty bow. "Latching" almost felt like an epilogue to last week's penultimate episode "Goodbye Tour." Last week's episode ended in a dance party, celebrating the characters even after the heartbreaking realization that they are no longer friends. The finale episode followed the post-dance party reality because life doesn't always tie up in a perfect, full-circle, dance-fueled way. And the quotes from the Girls finale prove this point that life sure isn't perfect, but it's there for us to learn from it.
The writing has always been fantastic on Girls. I often quote episodes long after they air, forever finding truth and comedy in the words. For whatever criticisms are thrown at the show, it is hard to deny that there is beauty in the writing. The finale stayed true to this aspect of the show. In the midst of chaos, heartbreak, and broken relationships come deep truths about life. The show commits itself to reflecting reality rather than a fiction about growing up, and these quotes are proof of that.
On The Competitive Nature Of Friendship
I wanted to start with the quote that kicked off the finale. Marnie basically tells Hannah that she wins at being her friend because she is the one there for her at the end of the day. There's a sad truth in this speech. Marnie, whose own life has fallen apart, takes a victory from her competitive view on friendship and support. It also speaks to a truth that we tend to sometimes help out others first because we can't help ourselves.
Reality Vs. Fantasy
While Hannah, in many ways, mistreats Marnie throughout the finale, she does speak to certain truths that Marnie ignores. Marnie is often the most idealistic of the girls. She fails throughout the series to deal with the reality of the situations she's put herself in. Her image of how it should play out often allows her to ignore the harsh truth. We see this in Marnie's marriage, her career, and now in her life with Hannah. This speech, while unfair in some ways, highlights the reality that life isn't a TV show. On a TV show.
When Hannah is overwhelmed and complaining that her son hates her, her mom, Loreen, delivers one of the most powerful speeches of the episode. Hannah's character throughout the series dodges consequences. She quits jobs in a huff, breaks it off with guys, and literally runs from tough situations. But there are certain decisions that have unavoidable consequences. Here, her mom explains that we make choices and sometimes must live with them. And in living with those choices, we grow. Hopefully.
On Pain And Self Involvement
Loreen really comes in with the harsh truths in the finale. Hannah has been a character who has grown in some ways and has remained self involved in others. This quote highlights how everyone carries pain on some level, but that Hannah needs to look beyond herself. Humans easily lean towards self-involved. Empathy and understanding is a practice.
On Toxic Relationships
I know, I know. Another Loreen quote, but she speaks so much truth! Loreen gives advice to Marnie after seeing that she's unhappy living with and helping Hannah. She speaks to a truth that toxic relationships, even toxic relationships with people we love, can end badly for both parties. Sometimes loving someone means giving them space, or even, letting them go. It's the advice Marnie needs to start considering a future for herself that is separate from her current situation.
Sacrifices Of Motherhood
While on a traditional Hannah storm-out, Hannah runs into a teenage girl. The girl is crying and without pants, complaining about her mother. Hannah takes a lot of her decision of sacrifice out on the teenager. In her speech, while in some ways harsh for her audience, is tidbits of truth. Hannah comes to the realization that motherhood will take sacrifice but that she is committed to it. This is one of the first moments that Hannah actually acts like a parent. All while yelling at a random teenager who's in her underwear.
The Girls finale had all the harsh truth the series contained, heightened by the fact that this is the end. All in all, the series did what I believe it set out to do: Show audiences flawed women, flawed lives, and flawed growth that's all so relatable.