Getting back together with an ex is one of the great post-breakup dilemmas we all face. You know that normally we're not thinking straight, you're still reeling from a breakup, your emotions are swiss cheese, but you're capable of making big decisions like this, right? RIGHT?! OK, somewhere you know that it's (normally) an awful idea to get back together with an ex — yet you can't shake the feeling that maybe it's all been a mistake and somehow you can make it work. In fact, you can spend a whole lot of time thinking this way and, ultimately, stopping yourself from really moving on.
“If you still see a future with your ex after you’ve broken up, you aren’t giving yourself the opportunity to let someone else fill that role in your life," matchmaker and dating expert Sarah Patt tells Bustle. "You might be closing yourself off to new loves without even realizing it.” And more than that, you may just not really be living your life in the way that you want to after a breakup.
That being said, sometimes getting back together is the right thing to do, so how do you know? Well, the trick is that you have to be brutally honest with yourself about your reasons why you want to get back together and whether they're the right reasons. Here are the questions you should be asking yourself.