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Internet dating is hard. Now, this isn't me being nostalgic for the good old days of dinner dates and love letters, because I've only ever known dating to be the dizzy, digital high of swiping left or right. But, either way, it's a minefield out there, and one of the worst parts of it is being confronted with people you've dumped, or have been dumped by, on the very app where you met them. It's something that's happened to all of us, and the stages of seeing your ex on a dating app are pretty relatable.
Look, your reaction to being confronted with your ex on a dating app really depends on how recently the break up happened, as well as what went down between you both. If things are a bit raw, it could potentially send you into a horrific downward spiral of totally horrific negatron proportions. But if you're a little bit further along in the break up process, it can be one of the funniest things to happen to you. And, dare I say, make your actual week.
Here are the six stages of seeing your ex on a dating app as I see them. Don't @ me.
4
To swipe or not to swipe, that is the question
OK so the decision to swipe left or right is incredibly tricky but something you need to think about for like a gazillion reasons.
Maybe you guys are a bit "on again off again." Or perhaps you kind of left things a little weirdly. Hey, that person might even feel like the "one that got away."
However, IMO, trying to match with someone you have ended things with is a bad idea whatever the situation. Remember you broke up for (probably) good reason. So you do you and work on yourself. It's truly the best investment you'll ever make.
And hey, if you do hook up with the ex? I don't blame you. We all know sex with the ex is the forbidden fruit.
5
Suddenly realising they've seen you too
Babes this is a reality you have to acknowledge. Somewhere, they are going through probably the exact same process as you. For better or worse. And you may be in the position where you're regretting those ill advised photos you thought would show your funny side, or the fact that you're wearing a top that you never gave back to them.
6
Moving on
Freaking out about seeing exes is a tale as old as time, whether it's on an app or IRL.
Shake it off, move on, and use that app to get what you're looking for from it. That ex never deserved your resplendence anyway.