"Cheating is a deceptive act of hiding or not telling the full truth to a partner," life coach Nina Rubin tells Bustle. "A good way to know if you are cheating is by asking yourself if you’d be uncomfortable getting caught. If the answer is yes, it’s likely cheating. And if you suspect your partner is cheating, ask. Even though it’s a difficult conversation, it’s better to know."
If you doubt your partner's fidelity, the best thing to do is communicate your concerns in a non-accusatory way — because making unfounded accusations of cheating can really damage a relationship. But, if you have a gut feeling that something in your relationship is off, there's one behavior that can be extremely telling: if your partner always seems to have an excuse for sneaking off, that could be a red flag to watch out for.
Thanks to new research from Victoria Milan — a dating site for married and attached people looking to have an extramarital affair — we now have some insight into the common excuses cheaters use to sneak out. In a survey, Victoria Milan asked over 7,500 active members about the excuses they use to sneak away from their families/partners in order to rendezvous with their affair partners — here are the five that are most common.