Folks, here are three essential things not to do at a bar: Be rude, forget to pay, and, oh yeah, attempt to kiss your female bartender’s hands. You’d think that last one would be obvious, but, well, here we are. A bar put up a sign to combat sexual harassment after male customers kept being creepy with a female employee. The sign is now going viral for throwing masterful shade on people who don’t seem to get that “being nice to a customer” does not equal “burning sexual passion.” (Why is that always so hard?)
Lauren Dew, a bartender at the Beer Cellar in Exeter, UK, tells Bustle that she put the sign up a few months ago after the bar “had a fairly bad weekend for sexual harassment — there was one customer who was asked to leave and a few others warned for inappropriate behavior.” The sign, created by UK artist Charlotte Mullin, offers customers a simple pie chart to help them decipher the mystery of the female mind, titled, “Why the female cashier is being nice to you.” The sign offers two reasons: “She is uncontrollably sexually attracted to you” OR “Because that’s literally her f*cking job.” And, oh hey look, it’s always the second reason.
This is definitely our favourite sign in the bar. Also if dudes could stop trying to kiss our female bartender's hands that would be great. pic.twitter.com/C1Lf8KNe1Q— Beer Cellar Exeter (@BeerCellarExe) May 25, 2017
Dew says that they’ve “had a lot of compliments” about the sign, and that, in the months that it’s been posted in the bar, “some people are definitely on better behavior.” Unfortunately only some — the bar tweeted the image of the sign yesterday because, Dew says, “a man tried to kiss a bartender's hand again, which is ALWAYS creepy.” (Um, gross.) Apparently hand-kissing female service people is a thing — after the bar posted the photo, Twitter users chimed in to say they’ve experienced similar behavior from guys at gaming cons, museum galleries, a synagogue, and the library. So maybe this sign just needs to be posted everywhere?
“Overall we feel really lucky to work in a place that pays us a living wage so we don't have to pander to behavior that makes us uncomfortable,” Dew tells Bustle. She also says she feels lucky that her “boss has a good sense of humor.”