If you're looking for a summer fling or summer love, there's no reason that you can't use the OG of dating apps to get you there. Tinder has released some insider tips and tricks on what makes an effective first message, and it starts with being proactive. "How many times have you matched with someone you think you would really enjoy spending time with, simply to wait for them to start a conversation and it never happens," Tinder's in-house Sociologist, Dr. Jess Carbino said in a press release. "If they matched with you, they’re clearly interested in talking, but they may be busy or too shy to send the first message. Take a look at their pictures, bio, and profession, and ask them a question about their life. Showing initiative, interest, and investment is always appealing. No more missed connections! And to the men looking for women out there — women are 25 percent more likely to prefer men to message first, so send her a question and get the conversation going!"
But if you're nervous about sending that first message, I get it. It can be difficult to know what to say. Luckily, Tinder has broken down what actually works. Here's what they found: