Sometimes relationships feel like we're all just pawning off our accumulated baggage on one another: Someone screws you over, hurts your feelings, and you take that slight an pass it off to someone else. Sometimes, it feels like we're all just messing each other up, and it would be so nice to have some kind of all-knowing, objective third party to guide us. Some who would mediate our spats, answer our relationship questions, and gently let us know when we're being little monsters, seeding unnecessary chaos into our personal lives. A kind of on-call relationship coach, but without the cost or time commitment.
Well, recently, curious and confused lovers could access precisely this service, free of charge. Wednesday through Friday, from 10 a.m. to 10 p.m. EST, Three Day Rule offered a matchmaker hotline, stationing its love experts by the phone to answer your burningest questions about romance. What is Three Day Rule, you ask? A personal matchmaking service that spent the past three days handing out 15-minute phone sessions to anyone who called. Duh.
I don't know about you, but I love free things. I also love having my questions anticipated and answered before I have to raise them myself. So consulting both your most frequently Googledrelationship questions, and the mental list of dating-related SEO articles I've written this year, I brainstormed a list of very common sex- and love-related topics. Then, I called up Erika Kaplan, a TDR regional manager and senior matchmaker, and asked her about all of them in a rapid-fire interview. Not so surprisingly, one common quandary eclipsed all of mine, in terms of popularity: How to maximize your online dating potential.
"I’m finding that we’re getting a lot of questions about how to make an impression online," Kaplan tells Bustle. "Online dating can be pretty impersonal, and there’s so many 'fish in the sea,' so people really want to make sure that their profiles are representing them the way they want to be represented, and their photos are doing the same. People really want to know how they should be crafting messages."
And if you want to know more about that, too, check out this handy list of profile grooming tips to help you take advantage of summer's sexiest day. (Purportedly July 8, if you didn't know now you know.)
Anyway, do you want to know how to move on? How to make your long-distance relationship work? How to know if your partnership is hurtful or healthy? How to ask out your crush? How to tell if your relationship has run its course? Whether or not you can actually stay friends with your ex? How to get out of a rut? How to salvage the remains of your ailing connection? Of course you do, who wouldn't? Read on for Kaplan's answers to the internet's most asked romance questions.