13 People Reveal The Moment They Realized Their Partner Didn't Love Them Anymore


Falling out of love is tough. But realizing that your partner has fallen out of love with you? That really hurts. And it can take so many different forms. "I think the idea of falling out of love is a bit more multilayered than it sounds at first glance," relationship therapist Aimee Hartstein, LCSW tells Bustle. "Relationships take work. The idea of two people falling blissfully in love and always being exactly attuned to what the other needs is very unrealistic. I believe that people can fall in love with lots of different partners. If the chemistry and the connection are there then there are different opportunities to build a relationship. However, one of the best predictors of a good relationship is how hard both parties are willing to work at things."

And sometimes, the compatibility just isn't there — or the desire to put in work. Sooner or later, it's going to show. In an AskReddit, folks shared their experiences, the moment that they noticed that their significant other wasn't in love with them. I have to tell you, it's depressing AF. Like, really depressing. It's not nice seeing the moment that relationships fall apart, but it's also really eye-opening. Here's what they had to say.


In Love With A Memory

Nope, never a good sign.


The Old Cheek Move

Awful on a first date. And soul-destroying if it's someone you've been with for a long time.


At The Hardware Store

Sometimes, it's just a mutual feeling.


If You're Dating A Sociopath

Seriously, who would do that?


No Effs Given

That's a tell-tale sign.


"What Do You Really Want?"

This actually sounds incredibly mature.


The Slow Fade

It's like watching a train wreck in slow motion.


Just... Ouch

Yup, that'll do it.


Talk About Brutally Honest

It sounds like the sort of thing he could have said before two and a half years had passed, right?


All The Little Signs

... And one big one. Yikes.


That You Couldn't Communicate

It's never going to work.


When They Won't Meet You In The Middle

And you're always the one making the sacrifices.


And This Monstrosity

I mean... WTF?

Falling out of love can get really ugly, really quickly. Make sure that you and your partner are staying in tune with each other — and being realistic about how you both feel. And if you're single? Well, then this list should let you breathe a sweet sigh of relief.