Falling madly, deeply in love with another person is a magical feeling. You want to shout it from the rooftops and let the whole world know. There are countless movies about falling in love, along with hundreds of self-help books that are guiding us in this direction. People are more than happy to share their experiences of falling hard for another person. They describe how fast the butterflies came the first time they kissed, or how they "just knew" when they saw the other person. But, no one really talks about falling out of love. It's not so easy to describe, and sometimes you can’t really put your finger on this feeling. You question this emotion when it comes along. Is this just a rocky road in my relationship? Will this pass? And honestly, falling out of love isn’t so black-and-white. It could be that you two have just ended the honeymoon phase and reality has now set in. Or, you and your partner have hit a rough patch, which every relationship will likely go through. However, with that being said, there are times when a relationship has run its course, and so has the love. As despairing as that can be, it can happen. It’s better to realize this now, rather than waiting for things to change, only to grow more unhappy in your relationship.
So, if you are unsure if the love is still there, here are some signs you might not be feeling it anymore:
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The eyes say it all. If your eyes are starting to wander, then soon you may be wandering out of this relationship. If you are putting out those hungry eyes every time you go out with the ladies or maybe you just downloaded Tinder just to see what’s out there — you might need to take a look at your relationship. It’s one thing to notice another attractive person, but if you’re constantly leading with your eyes, you’re leading yourself in another direction.
The Butterflies Have Flown Away
Where have all the butterflies gone? When you are no longer in love, it appears the butterflies have flown away. And I bet you sure miss them. If your partner is sending you sweet loving text messages and you don’t even feel one little flutter, there might be something in the air. And it ain’t a butterfly. It’s the possibility that you have fallen out of love.
Sex Has Gone Out The Window
One huge (no pun intended) sign that love has left the building, is if your sex life has left as well. Once sex is off the menu, then there’s really nothing left to order in this relationship. Sex makes you two feel closer than ever. Not having it can make you feel like you two are on two different islands.
Best Friend Status
If you start to realize that your one and only has become your one and only best friend, this might be a sign. It’s natural for your lover to become your BFF as well. But, if the best friend role has taken over and the boyfriend/girlfriend status is questionable, you two may be holding on to a friendship, instead of a romantic relationship. I’m not saying you should binge watch Netflix together or let out those stinky farts with one another. Just make sure there you are still in love with your partner, instead of just loving him or her.
Cute Habits Are No Longer Cute
Remember those cute little things your boyfriend/girlfriend used to do? Well, now those “cute” habits feel like nails on a chalkboard. Love can blind us and make us see things in a different light. So when you used to think your girlfriend’s constant humming was the most adorable thing ever — now you’re holding your tongue trying not to scream at the top of your lungs. When everything your partner does is annoying and no longer cute, Houston, we have a problem.
Feel Something Is Missing
Falling out of love is difficult to explain. It’s not easy to put this feeling into words or even put your finger on it. With that being said, you might feel one thing — that something is missing. Having this sensation of emptiness is a big sign. So, if you’re feeling that something is missing, and it’s not just your keys, it might be that you’re locked out of love.
When you are madly in love, no matter what your partner looks like, you still can’t keep your hands off them. But when you may no longer be feeling the love, you also don’t feel attracted. You find excuses to not touch each other anymore. You blame not wanting to kiss your partner on not liking PDA. When you start cringing at the thought of being intimate with your loved one, all signs point to the love being gone.
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