Finding that special someone may not be easy. But using astrology can help guide you towards a
partner you're attracted to and compatible with, just by knowing your zodiac sign. Because as astrologer Judi Vitale tells Bustle, "When you understand who you are, it’s easy to see what you’re looking for."
The ultimate goal for some of us is
to find a soulmate or that one person who "gets" and loves us just the way we are, Vitale says. While there are different ways of going about it, like getting set up by mutual friends or online dating, in some cases, your soulmate is going to be a lot different than you are. Essentially, they may bring things into your life that you might not have realized you needed.
"By giving you a chance to look at the basic attributes of your sign and the traits that most appeal to you in a partner, astrology can help you gain insight into the attributes that will truly allow you to find love and enjoy it for a very long time," Vitale says.
So if you want a relationship that's built to last, here's the number one thing you're attracted to in a partner, based on your zodiac sign:
Aries (March 21 - April 19): Calmness
Aries are known for being a fiery and unstoppable force. You're so full of energy that many times, you have a racing mind that never seems to stop. That's why Vitale says there's something about a person's ability to stay relaxed in even the most chaotic situations that really appeals to you. "You're most attracted to the one with the ability to be the calm in your storm," she says.
Taurus (April 20 - May 20): Level-Headedness
Taurus are known
for being great partners due to the fact that they value loyalty and stability. You're also Venus-ruled, so it's all about sensuality and romance with you. You recognize that you have a lot of great traits to offer a partner, says Vitale, so it makes sense that you'd want someone who's just as grounded, level-headed, and stable as you are. You also wouldn't mind someone who's "stubborn enough to give you a run for your money." It makes your life more fun and interesting.
Gemini (May 21 - June 20): A Respect For Your Need Of Freedom
Geminis are masters at flirting. You have a natural ability to charm everyone you meet — it's just how you are. If someone were to lock you down into a relationship, you'd need them to understand that you can't be smothered because jealousy will not fly with you. Because of that, Vitale says, you're attracted to someone who's secure enough to know that you need your sense of freedom, along with the love and excitement that comes with being in a relationship.
Cancer (June 21 - July 22): Security
Cancers are known for being emotional, loyal, and pretty sensitive. You're also huge homebodies who'd rather enjoy cozy nights in with the one you love rather than be out and about at a lively social event. "Cancers are attracted to those who have the ability to provide them with a sense of security," Vitale says.
Leo (July 23 - August 22): A Cool Demeanor
Leos are known for loving attention. So if someone's going to catch yours, they have to know how to play it cool. "You just love a 'cool' demeanor that makes it more fun to get the attention you know you deserve," Vitale says.
Virgo (August 23 - September 22): Compassion
Virgos, like Taurus and Capricorn, are earth signs who are practical, loyal, and sometimes a little critical of themselves and the ones they love. You're also known for valuing kindness and tend to see the good in people. According to Vitale, innocence and compassion are most attractive to Virgos. You're kind of a perfectionist and you just want the best in yourself and your partner.
Libra (September 23 - October 22): Decisiveness
Libras love to weigh out all the options. You're all about balance, fairness, and equality. Unfortunately, your obsession with always making the right decision can take you forever to actually make one. "Because it's so hard for you to make up your mind, you're attracted to a person's decisiveness," Vitale says. The great part is, once you trust the person enough, following their lead and making quick decisions won't be so hard, for the most part.
Scorpio (October 23 - November 21): Self-Confidence
You like your secrets and as a Scorpio, you
don't enjoy opening up to just anyone. But when you do, you're one of the best people to have on their side. When it comes to attraction, Vitale says, you want someone who's "secure, sane, and has the strength to allow you to have time to yourself." Scoprios do value their alone-time, so neediness will put you off for sure.
Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21): Independence
Sagittarius are the adventurers of the zodiac. You seem to always like being on-the-go and your curious mind will not be satisfied until you discover whatever it is you need to discover. Because of that, Vitale says, independence is something that truly attracts you to a person. "You need enough distance and someone interesting to come home to," she says.
Capricorn (December 22 - January 19): Domestic Stability
Capricorns are all about responsibility, discipline, and self-control. You're typically very traditional in the way you view the world and you have tons of big ambitions. That's why
Capricorns typically make great managers. So if anything is going to attract you, it's going to be a sense of home. "You're attracted to someone's domestic stability that will provide an anchor to your overweening ambition," Vitale says.
Aquarius (January 20 - February 18): Passion
Aquarians are true originals. You're just your own person, and hate conformity. You value individual expression, so it's not too surprising to find that "individuality and passion" are the things you you're most attracted to in a partner.
Pisces (February 19 - March 20): Someone Who Has Their Act Together
You're very spiritual in nature and have a tendency to indulge in the fantasy land you create in your mind. You're incredibly attracted to someone who has their life together, Vitale says. While you want someone who'll give you the space to dream big, you also value a person's ability to help ground you a bit and keep you organized.
Attraction is different for every single person, and just knowing your sun sign's traits is one small part of the bigger picture. If you want true astrological guidance for your love life, knowing your
moon sign and rising or ascendant sign can make it even more applicable to you. While astrology can't tell you the exact person you're meant to be with, it can help guide you towards the right partner and relationship for you.