The jury is definitely still out on on butt stuff for a lot of people. For people with penises, anal penetration makes total sense because of the prostate gland, which gets stimulated and — I’ve been told — feels amazing. In fact, according to sex toy brand LELO, prostate orgasms are 33 percent bigger than penile orgasms. But for people with vaginas, the appeal of anal stimulation is less immediately obvious. With no prostate gland to poke, what’s the point? Why do some women (and other people without prostate glands) like butt plugs?
Of course, not everyone with a vagina does like anal play. In fact, that goes for people of all genders. Like any other sex act, there are people who love it, people who hate it, and people who are just kind of “meh” about it. But contrary to popular belief, there are physical reasons why a person with a vagina might be into anal sex. Take, for example, the fact that the G-spot can often be stimulated through the wall of the anus.
"The anus and vagina share a mutual wall that is densely innervated by pelvic nerves," sex-positive pelvic health physical therapist, sex educator and counselor Dr. Uchenna Ossai, tells Bustle. "Using an anal plug can stimulate all of the nerves in that shared wall, activating pelvic floor muscle contractions that occur during orgasm."
One reddit user asked the women of the r/sex community what anal toys or butt plugs feel like. “What do women get out of anal toys/ butt plugs?,” user Nuskies says. “Can women orgasm from anal and have any female redditors experienced that?” Here’s what self-identified women users of reddit responded.
1It Feels Dirty —In A Good Way
For this user, butt play appeals from many angles (pun intended) but she especially likes the fact that it feels dirty-in-a-good way.
2Feels Like Double Penetration
Having a butt plug in during vaginal intercourse can help fulfill a double penetration fantasy, without the potential mess of a third person in the room. Score! This user also likes butt toys for dom/sub play.
3It's Just A Little Somethin' Extra
This user clearly isn't super pumped about butt play but she's down!
4It Feels "Fuller"
Some women, like this user, enjoy a "full" feeling when they're having sex and having a butt plug helps with that.
Ultimately, different women will have different experiences when it comes to anal toys. But if you and your partner are curious about butt play, know that there are tons of options out there and so many different ways to integrate it into your sex life.