What Is New Relationship Energy? 7 Ways To Make It Last

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It's commonly said that the early stages of a relationship are the best. In many cases, it's true. There really is nothing like new relationship energy. But the age-old question is, how do you make it last?

If you're not too familiar with it, the term "New Relationship Energy" is pretty self-explanatory. As Haylin Belay, sexuality expert and social-emotional skills educator, tells Bustle, it's actually a term that popped up in polyamorous communities to describe the "intoxicating feeling" of connecting with someone new. "In 'vanilla dating,' we generally refer to it as the honeymoon period," she says.

Like the honeymoon period, you typically have new relationship energy in those first few weeks or months of a relationship. "It's what Beyoncé means when she says 'drunk in love,'" relationship expert Dr. Megan Stubbs tells Bustle. "You are high on life and your partner. Everything you discover about them is exciting and you can't wait to discover more."

On a physiological level, new relationship energy comes from a "delicious cocktail of hormones" and brain signals that make us feel swept away by new love. "If you're daydreaming about their kisses and you're missing them after only a few hours apart, congratulations — you're feeling new relationship energy," Belay says.

So if you want to keep that new relationship energy going, here are some things you can do, according to experts.