Social media has brought a lot into our lives. Information about our best friend from third grade. New ways to take photos of ourselves. A fascination with how food looks, in addition to how it tastes. The election of Donald Trump. Oh — and keeping our exes in our lives way past a relationship’s expiration date. While all the other influences are certainly interesting, it’s that last one that cracks me up the most. Seriously — there are just some social media interactions we all have with our exes. Some of them are funny. Some are weird; some are totally accidental. But some are just downright harmful.
“After you get out of a long-term relationship, it’s a great idea to take some time to reconnect with yourself and figure out what’s next,” relationship and wellness coach Shula Melamed MA MPH, tells Bustle. “What do you want in a relationship? What do you want out of your life? So going back and checking in in an obsessive way on a daily basis makes me wonder if you’re really letting go.”
So that’s a good place to start: With not obsessively checking in on your exe’s social media. I know, I know, it’s hard AF but seriously, for your own peace of mind, it’s important. Getting dragged back into their presentation of their life on social media is a surefire way to make sure you never get over an ex. But beyond the serious stuff, there are also just some silly things that inevitably happen after a breakup. Here’s a combination of serious and silly social media interactions that we all have with our exes.