It’s that time of year when people will start asking what everyone’s New Year’s resolution is. But I won’t be buying into that convention. When I get this question, I’m going to respond that I don’t have one. New Year's resolutions haven't done much good for me, and I think they should be totally optional.
"New Year’s resolutions can actually set you up for disappointment," therapist Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW tells Bustle. "If you make a resolution and aren’t able to follow through with it, you may end up beating yourself up and feeling worse about yourself. It’s best to set goals for yourself that are small and manageable." And you can set these goals all year round. You don't have to set one gigantic, nearly-impossible-to-achieve goal once a year.
New Year's Eve should be a time to celebrate everything that's been good about the previous year, and resolutions often instead leave us feeling ashamed of where we are. It's important to improve ourselves, but most of us are already hard enough on ourselves.
Here’s why I’m not making a New Year’s resolution — and don’t think anyone should feel obligated to, no matter how many times they get asked about it.