Many of us have relationship dealbreakers, or certain things we absolutely will not tolerate in a romantic partner. For instance, some people refuse to date someone who's possessive, while a partner who's lazy is a surefire swipe left for others. While the top romantic dealbreakers vary from person to person, knowing your zodiac sign can bring some added insight into what you won't put up with, based on your personality traits. And thankfully, astrology can also reveal the type of partner you'd be compatible with — and the ones to stay away from.
"In truth, all the zodiac signs have proclivities that could lead them to make bad choices in relationships," Judi Vitale, astrologer and author of the book, Lovecasts, tells Bustle. "My belief is that all signs can get along. It’s just a matter of awareness on the qualities and difficulties that come with being any one of them."
While you shouldn't use your zodiac sign as an excuse for being the way you are, you can use astrology to help you understand yourself and others — and make better decisions moving forward.
And, paying attention to astrology can be especially helpful when you're dating and looking for love. According to Vitale, these should be your biggest relationship dealbreakers, based on your zodiac sign:
Aries (March 21 - April 19): Nit-Picking & Moving In Slow-Mo
"Aries moves quickly and has little time for dealing with details," Vitale says. As an Aries, you love to be number one. You're energetic, you're bold, and you're pretty unstoppable. Because of that, it may be difficult for you to be with a person who likes to live their life savoring every little moment, so you should probably stay away from slow-moving Taurus.
Taurus (April 20 - May 20): Leaving Things Unfinished & Rushing
As a Taurus, you're known for moving slow and deliberately. You're extremely patient, loyal, and won't commit to just anyone. You also won’t quit until something is done, Vitale says. Because of that, it's difficult for you to be left hanging. You can't stand flakiness in people because you want the stability of an actual commitment. That's why it's best to stay away from an air sign like Aquarius. And also Aries, who's not exactly known for taking it slow.
Gemini (May 21 - June 20): Silence & Possessiveness
"Life without conversation is death to Gemini," Vitale says. "As is being held back from meeting new people."
You're a fascinating original who loves to talk. You just have the natural ability to charm people you just met. Sometimes your charming demeanor and love of meeting new people can be wrongly translated by a partner who doesn't get you. That's why it's difficult for you to date someone who's possessive and doesn't like to talk. Avoiding a Cancer would be your best bet.
Cancer (June 21 - July 22): Insensitivity & Lack Of Appreciation
As a Cancer, you're very in touch with your emotions. You're known for being compassionate and nurturing. But you can also be pretty sensitive. "Cancer’s skin can be way too thin, and the crab’s generosity gets locked in the shell when the words 'thank you' are neglected," Vitale says. You can't be in a relationship with someone who isn't aware of your feelings and all that you do. That's why you should probably stay away from Scorpios, who aren't really known for dealing with emotions very well.
Leo (July 23 - August 22): Not Giving Compliments & Laziness
"Leo needs lavish amounts of attention, and will not tolerate people who waste their potential," Vitale says.
You're outgoing, you're fun, and you love having the spotlight on you. Because of that, you need a partner who'll give you the attention you think you deserve. You're a fire sign and can't stand being around someone who smothers your flame. You probably shouldn't date a Capricorn who also craves the attention.
Virgo (August 23 - September 22): Sloppiness & Lack Of Attention To Details
As a Virgo, you need to have things sorted out and arranged. "They can’t sleep until all details are dealt with," Vitale says. You're resourceful, organized, and practical.
You're one of the more mature signs in the zodiac, so you need someone who essentially has their life together. You're also very earthy and grounded, which is why you should probably stay away from Pisces, who tends to live in Fantasyland.
Libra (September 23 - October 22): Pushiness & Lack Of Manners
Libras are charming, lovable, and fair. You love sharing with your partner and you can be hopelessly romantic. You want to give love, commitment, and partnership to someone, and you want the same in return.
"Libra is gentle and expects others to be respectful, not bossy or boorish," Vitale says. You like to take your time to weigh out the pros and cons, so it's hard for you to be with someone who'll push you to take action faster. It might be difficult for you to date a Gemini if you're longing for a serious commitment.
Scorpio (October 23 - November 21): Prudishness & Prying Into Private Matters
"Scorpio tells it like it is when it comes to sex, but likes to have a few secrets that will never be told," Vitale says.
You're the sexy, seductive, and secretive ones of the bunch. There's just something about you that people are super drawn to. When it comes to relationships, you like to be in control. When it comes to sex, you like it intense. So you can't really be with a partner who likes to keep it to the same routine. You also can't stand a partner who needs to know every single detail of your life because you like your secrets. Because you're possessive in nature, you should probably stay away from dating Leos who like to flaunt.
Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21): Lack Of Humor & Curiosity
Laughter is like air to Sagittarius, Vitale says. "The atmosphere gets stale unless there are new things to learn and do."
You're all about adventure and discovery. You love to joke, laugh, and have a good time. You don't take things too seriously, so it's important to be with someone who gets that. You're not into routine, so dating a Taurus might be a little boring for you.
Capricorn (December 22 - January 19): Frivolity & Flagrant PDA
Capricorns are known for being hardworking and family-minded. You're loyal, ambitious, and devoted. You make great long-term relationship material because you tend to plan for the long-term.
"Capricorn’s practical nature is constant, but cuddling in public is not the sea-goat’s thing," Vitale says. You're super practical to the point that you do things for a reason. You can't be with someone who wants to do something "just for the heck of it." That's probably why PDA isn't something you're into. It doesn't make sense to you. You should probably stay away from an Aries. While you're both similar in the sense that your'e goal-oriented, you just go about life a little too differently.
Aquarius (January 20 - February 18): Conformity & Lack Of Vision
You're an original. You're open-minded, logical, and inviting. You're also quirky and love to do your own thing. In short, rules are made for Aquarius to break.
"If someone can’t see the future, Aquarius isn’t interested," Vitale says. You need someone who understands the interesting way you view the world. Dating someone like a Libra, who's pretty conventional, might be difficult for you.
Pisces (February 19 - March 20): Lack Of Imagination & Selfishness
"Pisces’ mind is usually adrift in a world of creativity, spirituality, and unconditional love," Vitale says. "Things exist to be given." You're a dreamer and a healer. You're also very romantic. So you need someone who can give you the romance you deserve. That's why Virgo, who's very grounded in reality, wouldn't be the best sign to date. They're a little too practical for your tastes.
Just because astrology says you won't be compatible with certain people, it doesn't mean you're doomed if you find yourself attracted them. It's all about knowing your strengths and weaknesses and figuring out how to compromise with different personalities. Besides, astrology is more than just your sun sign. There may be other areas in your birth chart that are much more compatible. Really, astrology should be used as a guide to help inform you to make the best decisions for you and your love life.