Women Can Get Sex Whenever They Want...So What?
In a guest column at The Guardian , sex writer "Girl on the Net" tackles the complaint that women hold more sexual power because they can "get sex whenever they want." You've probably heard guys whine about how unfair it is that a woman could just "walk into a bar" and get laid while men face much less assured odds when trying to lure strangers into sex. Girl on the Net disputes this sex myth on several grounds:
But what if we concede that, in general, it is much easier for a woman seeking casual sex to find a man willing than when the genders are reversed? It doesn't amount to much in the way of a good sexual bargain for women, she argues.
No matter if the sex isn't great, a man entering into a casual sexual encounter is likely to get off. For women, sexual fulfillment is much less guaranteed, and meanwhile the risks are higher. Women may well be able to walk into a bar (or log into an app) and find willing sexual partners more easily than men, but it's not really that great of a privilege (nor does the fact that more women aren't jumping at the opportunity say anything about levels of female sexual desire). As Girl on the Net concludes, attempting to draw conclusions about women and sex "based on a sexual offer defined by male fantasy" — the stranger that walks up and propositions sex — "is as good an example of male privilege as anything else." Sexual power really isn't defined by the ability to have sex with as many random strangers as possible.