How 12 People Knew Their Partner Was "The One"

by Bobby Box

There are a lot of naysayers out there when it comes to love, possibly because it's such an incredible mystery. Because how do you know when you've met the one? The sensation is unexplainable, yet it’s something many of us yearn for – for some, it’s what we want more than anything. Many people say that just "know" when it's right. That’s why I decided to chat with people of all ages and from all walks of life to speak on the quality they most admire most in their partner in hopes to discover that special something that has made this magic happen for these fortunate couples.

As you’ll see, without mention, every person I spoke to offered a non-physical quality, which is also encouraging. So maybe the takeaway from all of this is instead of swiping left on any guy or girl who isn't a hottie with piercing blue eyes, you should instead be on the lookout for somebody who possesses these special qualities below, because these are traits from people who've found the love of their lives. Below are 12 qualities from 12 different people who are dating, married, or remarried to the person that they’re positive is “The One." So check out the list of qualities below — it just might restore your faith in love.

1. Support

I have been with my wife for 12 years, married for eight. The most beautiful characteristic is her unconditional support and her absolute belief in me. My wife is an amazing person, strong and beautiful on every level. It is her support and belief in me that is the most beautiful. – Matt, 40

2. Enthusiasm

His smile, sense of humor, and his ability to fuse that into every situation. He doesn't take everything so seriously. My favorite part of the relationship with my current boyfriend compared to those in the past is that if the car breaks down in the middle of nowhere, we laugh and make inside jokes as we walk along the road to get gas and don't let something that can't be changed get us angry, especially angry at each other. – Lauren, 27

3. Encouragement

My husband fits the description, "third time charm". I wasn't successful in my two previous marriages – needless to say, I know what qualities aren't attractive. What I find to be the most attractive quality in my spouse of 27 years is his role as my personal cheerleader. Family, ex-spouses, and friends have never given me the encouragement or affirmation that my husband does. In any endeavor – acquiring more education, writing a book, participating in global mission trip, whatever – he encourages me; not in a condescending way, but giving me affirmation. Along with this, he gives his knowledgeable advice on the positives as well as the negatives of what I am attempting. – Patricia, 60

4. Creativity

The most attractive thing about my partner is his adventurous creativity! – Zoe, 51

5. Confidence

I first met my partner nine years ago when we were both 16 and I was instantly attracted to him because of his confident manner. He was always saying something interesting and funny and made me laugh all the time. He still does! – Alice, 23

6. Smarts

While my partner has amazing physical beauty, the most attractive thing about her is her intelligence. I'm thankful for her beauty and sexiness, but without the intelligence it would all be for not. Being able to have amazing conversations on deep and meaningful subjects makes her that much more beautiful in my eyes. A great conversation is the best foreplay, and with my beautiful wife, that foreplay can go on late into the evening. I love it. – Rob, 48

7. Intelligence

The most attractive thing about my partner is his love for knowledge and history. His eyes have a particular sparkle when he has discovered something new and I appreciate the lessons in a number of areas where I am not as well-versed. He feeds my mind and it is sexy. – Janine, 32

8. Courage

My husband is a black belt in Gracie Jiu Jitsu and while I could say his manliness and courage are his best qualities, it's his love of God that keeps him tender and sweet. – Suzanne, 47

9. Kindness

Looks come and go, so you can’t count on those. With my wife I love her smile, kindness, sweetness, and good heart. She also has attractive bodily features like smile, eyes and hair. – Larry, 34

10. Responsibility

My husband and I have been married for 12 years and even though we met when we were just kids, the number one thing that attracted me to him was that he always seemed like he would be such an excellent father. We now have a one-year old and this last year has become more and more beautiful to me as I have watched him learn to change diapers, give baths, and become a master of putting our sweet daughter to bed. – Sumeera, 32

11. Loyalty

Just like any relationship, we have had our ups and downs. My boyfriend has remained a true friend, and has held my hand every step of the way. I would have to say that my favorite quality that he possesses is loyalty. There have been situations where people have wanted him to doubt me, and my dedication to our relationship, but he trusted me and his heart. He has stated from the beginning that he believes that I am the woman that God has for him, and he has treated me like I am a treasured gem. – Shekinah, 31

12. Compassion

I think the most attractive quality has to be his compassion for others. Milton Campbell, my boyfriend for the past 3.5 years, treats people how he would like to be treated. He’s a do-the-right-thing type of person, whether it’s giving up his seat for women (which should go without question), or always taking the high road. He's just an all-around good guy with "old-fashioned" manners which is rare these days, or at least in New York City. – Carmen, 27

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