Improve Your Sex Life With 14 Tips for Couples
Whether you and your partner's love life is clean, neat, and tied with a bow, or it more closely resembles the passionate, gyrating throes of a 50 Cent music video, there is always room for improving your sex life. Hooking up on the reg means you and your partner are in sync with each other, which is great. But too much of the same becomes predictable, and a love life devoid of surprises can definitely lose its luster.
Keep the spontaneity in the sheets by incorporating a few new tactics that will make you (and your partner's) love life as exciting as it was in the beginning. If you've never tried a sex toy before, one or two can definitely spice things up. (Below, we've rounded up nine that couples can explore together.) There are also several things you can practice on your own — some even outside of the bedroom — that will make time spent with your S.O. even better.
While there are plenty of things in life that are mundane and unremarkable, your sex life doesn't have to be one of them. Ahead are a mix of expert-approved toys and tips from experts that could drastically improve your next night in with your boo, regardless of how great you two already are together.
A Toy That Keeps You In Full Control
This dual wand takes care of internal and external stimulation simultaneously: its curved egg shape reaches the G-spot, while the smaller tip provides clitoral arousal through 10 different pulsing sensations. The hollow handle allows for maximum control when using on your partner (or yourself), and its USB-rechargeable feature means bye-bye to batteries.
A Vibrator You Can Use Together
Selling out from vendors everywhere, the WeVibe is gaining traction because of its ability to achieve both G-spot and clitoral stimulation with a form-fitting, compact shape that keeps intimacy between you and your partner intact. The app addition means you two can get off whenever, wherever, and the smaller size means you'll be the only ones to know.
A Little Boost Of Confidence
Anything from taking a day of pampering to sporting this pretty — and actually supportive! — bra underneath your clothes can make you feel sensual. When you feel good about yourself, that energy comes into the bedroom, said Sexual Health Counselor Sofi H. Matz to Redbook . She suggests doing something sexy on your own to up your confidence in bed.
A Best-Selling, Super-Discreet Sex Toy
The best-selling sex toy on Amazon for a reason, this remote-controlled gadget vibrates 2,000 times a minute, letting your partner select from ten different settings for ultimate clitoral stimulation. A waterproof silicone material means your hookup's not confined to the bed, and quiet vibrations ensure you can be as discreet as you want.
A Little Hands-Free Foreplay
The Pulse II takes hands-free foreplay to the next level with award-winning oscillating technology that comfortably fits around the shaft with ridged silicone, while a separate vibrating plate (controlled by wireless remote) stimulates the clit. The different pieces operate independent of each other, so you can adjust the pulse to levels that please both of you.
A Touch Of Relaxation
Enjoy every single moment with your S.O. by prolonging the pleasure — like working this best-selling, sensually invigorating lavender massage oil in beforehand. If your end goal is always orgasm, you might find yourself feeling dissatisfied at the end of the night, said Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin to xoJane. Oftentimes, focusing on feeling good, instead of solely getting the big fireworks, can lead to more orgasms anyway.
A Fully Customizable Vibrator
Whether you prefer internal or external stimulation leading up to the climax, this vibrator does it all. Your partner can control the pulse settings with a remote from up to 118 feet away — and 50 percent higher power and even more pulse settings than previous Lelo toys make this waterproof toy a must-have in your love life.
An Extra Dose Of Handheld Stimulation
This cordless, seamless silicone vibrator is small enough to fit in your partner's hands, which means easy access to its dual, separately powered ears (and their four vibration modes and five vibration power settings), in addition to intense clitoral stimulation.
A Schedule For Sex (Really!)
Bring the book into your life that has you planning in advance for your next romp. Some couples get too caught up in their day-to-day lives and forget to be intimate with each other, Sex Therapist Dr. Laura Berman told Oprah.com. When weeks have gone by, it's time make an effort, set a schedule, and stick to it. It might not seem romantic at first, but having a day to look forward to can get you both excited and enjoy sex even more.
An Award-Winning Oral Sex Simulator
Ten different vibration settings on this oral sex simulator use SenseTouch technology to detect how much pressure your partner is using, adjusting the intensity of its vibrations accordingly. Even science says this one's a winner: The simulator's 2014 Cannes Lions award makes it the only sex toy to ever win the grand prize for product design.
The Perfect Positioning
About 15 to 20 percent of women can climax through intercourse alone, said Laurie Watson (a certified sex therapist) to the The Huffington Post . But, she says, chances are better when the woman's hips are elevated. Position this body pillow to raise her hips, in order to allow for closer clitoral and G-spot contact.
A Travel-Friendly Ring
For couples who want increased vibrations sans add-on features, this classic ring choice creates thrilling sensations for both partners and can be controlled to pulse consistently or respond to applied pressure. Waterproof and travel-friendly, the ring is a great introductory piece for first-time toy testers and experienced partners alike.
Open & Clear Communication
Make your relationship feel just like it did in the beginning with the book written by 30-year marital counselor Andrew Marshall. The importance of communication can't be understated, according to Linda Banner, health psychologist and licensed sex therapist. Banner told Men's Journal that preferences should be made during the deed, but they should be done so delicately.
A Best-Rated Ring
One of the best-rated rings on Amazon, the Utimi Mini Sex Toy Penis Ring's body-safe, medical-grade silicone might look tight at first, but it's flexible enough to fit your partner's size and increases his sensitivity tenfold. Powerful vibrating ears help both of you hit your peaks, and the ring can be used solo or together.
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