4 Love Lessons from Beyonce and Jay Z, Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber, and More
As Hallmark's favorite holiday — I mean, Valentine’s Day — approaches, people are buying their loved ones cheap boxes of too-chewy chocolates, everyone (singled or attached) is attempting to make reservations for restaurants that are already booked, and stores are already preparing their shelves for Saint Patrick’s Day. It's official: Valentine's Day hasn't been fun since your fellow third grade classmates placed Snoopy cards in a shoebox on your desk.
But here's guessing the holiday is much more fun for those with quite a bit of disposable income. More specifically, celebrities. Lamborghinis for their significant other? A trip to Paris, just because? Though most of us will never have the opportunity to indulge in such a luxurious lifestyle, normal couples can actually learn a thing or two from celebrity relationships.
Don’t Say “I Do” Until You’re Ready
In what seems like a major theme on my Facebook page, everyone is getting engaged and having babies, and sometimes in reverse order. I am a Four Weddings fanatic, so marriage and even pregnancy before marriage isn’t something that I have an issue with at all. What does scare me is the fact that I’m only 21, meaning many of my Facebook friends range from 20-23 (so mostly in college) and yet so many of them are making major commitments so early in their lives. But what if they’re in love with the one, Emma? I get it, true love, lalala, but when you’re in your 20s, you should have that time to discover yourself.
Take it from Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth, who called off their engagement last year. The now 21-year-old singer, Cyrus, was only 19 when news of her seemingly speedy relationship made headlines. However, in an interview with Barbara Walters post-breakup, she admitted that the timing wasn’t right. “I don’t think I realized what 19 truly is, and I got engaged at 19, and I definitely wouldn’t change being engaged,” she said. “It was so fun wearing a fat rock for a few years. But now, I just feel like I can actually be happy. I wait for those moments of silence, when I’m just at my house, by myself.”
Even Kim Kardashian, who is already 33, took a big leap when she agreed to marry Kris Humphries in 2011. The couple was engaged for a mere 90 days, because why wait, right? Too bad they were only married for 72 days. With divorces rates increasing now that the economy is beginning to recover, ask yourself: Is this really the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Realize That Not Everyone Can Change
During Selena Gomez's courtship with Justin Bieber, it was easy to feel bad for the Disney star. Because, really, it's not easy to change the person you date. (And Bieber is someone who needs to seriously change.) But your significant other has to change because they want to… or so my mom has told me every time I’ve struggled in a relationship. It’s easy to be blinded by love and want to give that special someone a second, third, or even a hundredth chance, like it appeared Gomez did when she was spotted out on a Segway ride with Bieber after they had broken up. I’m by no means saying that you shouldn’t fight for a relationship, but you should know open yourself up to the signs of an unhealthy relationship.
Face It: You’re Going To Get Caught
Yes, it’s likely easier for your affair to fly under the radar when you’re not continuously followed by the paparazzi. But celebrities have taught us that if you cheat on someone, you will probably be caught. Even if you aren’t caught, statistics reveal that both spouses will admit to infidelity in 41 percent of marriages.
Even those who hate press and paparazzi can't escape being caught. Sorry, Twilight fans: Following Kristen Stewart's affair with Rupert Sanders, it was clear Bella and Edward's romance would only last in fiction books.
Find The Jay-Z To Your Beyoncé
There may have been some mixed reviews over this power couple’s performance at the Grammys. Still, there's little doubt that their public display of affection displayed real affection between the couple. (Not to mention during Jay Z's acceptance speech for Best Rap/Sung Collaboration: “I want to thank God, I mean, a little bit for this award, but also all the universe for conspiring and for putting that beautiful light of a young lady in my life.") Don’t rush to find that perfect someone, but when you do, make sure you both bring the best out in one another.