If you're an introvert, your idea of a good time is probably more in line with a cup of coffee and a good book than going out five nights a week to meet potential mates. But if you're an introvert who's single and you're in search of someone who loves quiet as much as you do, and would rather stay in than go out, and is perfectly happy with a good Audrey Hepburn film on a Friday night — then you're probably looking for the best dating apps for you.
First off, if you're naturally introverted, you are not the type to take selfie after selfie and use it on Tinder or whatever, nor are you the type to reach out first on dating apps and "put yourself out there," as they say. I stumbled upon an amazing Instagram account last night called "Introvert Doodles," which is pretty much the cutest thing ever, and she totally nails the experience of being an introvert in the 21st century. One of my favorite doodles is a list of "best feelings in the world," including "finding out a meeting has been cancelled" and "escaping a party early." If you're nodding your head in agreement, you're also probably much better with one-on-one interaction, and apps like Grouper, or Squad, that throw you in group-date settings, probably make you want to tear your hair out. So which apps are best for introverts? As usual, there's an app for that. Seven, to be precise. Here they are.
Billed as the dating app for introverts, Anomo is all about keeping things casual at first. Instead of throwing 20 photos of yourself up right away and letting it all hang out, Anomo dating app starts slow, with an avatar. You play games, and you're matched with people who have similar interests and answers. If you choose to get to know someone more on the app, you can reveal more of yourself. Perfect.
I was only on OkCupid for a hot minute, but I noticed that there were a lot of self-described introverts on this app, and though it's a complete mixed bag — you can definitely find people of every stripe on this app — sheer volume of membership alone pretty much guarantees you'll be able to find other introverts on here (if that's what you want).
3. Coffee Meets Bagel
Coffee Meets Bagel doesn't force you into endless scrolling through profiles of guys or gals who may or may not be a good match for you. Instead, every day at noon, the app sends you one potential match. If you like them and they like you, you can chat — and the app even helps facilitate a first date. An introvert's dream!
Technically, this is a social trivia app, not a dating app. But these two couples met via QuizUp, so why can't you? The premise is prime for finding love: You're matched in trivia games in over 1,000 very specific categories, such as aviation or literary topics. If you're matched with someone you like, you can also chat with them. Hey, love could happen this way. Why not?
Like Coffee Meets Bagel, Once dating app just gives you one — count 'em, one — match per day. Even more scientific, though: Once has a real, live person matching you. So if you're super introverted, say so — and if you're looking for someone similar, they can find that for you. Pretty cool.
The great thing about this app is that it matches you in terms of horoscope. So you're not reaching out randomly and feeling awkward about being like, "hiiii," because it does that for you. Taurus? Align dating app will match you with another Taurus, perhaps, or another sign that is good for Taureans. And then you automatically have something to talk about on your first date.
On dating app Siren, heterosexual women are in control of who sees them and who they want to talk to. Users answer a Question of the Day, which lets their personality shine through and provides icebreakers, so you can connect through conversation above anything else.
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