Some friendships are built to last. Others crash and burn like torrid love affairs. As you get into your late 20s, people really start to show their colors. It’s not that they were necessarily hiding themselves from you, it’s just that the things we unintentionally hide behind, like ego and insecurity, get stripped away in our late 20s as we become more of the people we’re going to be.
During this time, you might have a few unfortunate revelations with friends — you just don’t feel the same way about them that you used to. It’s not much different than falling out of love in a relationship. And it can definitely be just as heartbreaking. One day you wake up and feel like the glow around your bestie is a little dull and the room for them in your heart is a little bit limited. Something about the way they live their lives, treat others, or treat themselves starts to feel wrong to you, or not right for you. You suddenly don't know how you became friends.
You find yourself putting them lower and lower on the priority list until you find that giving them attention feels like a sacrifice. Every friendship is so special, and it can be very hard to let go of someone who you’ve shared amazing memories with, maybe grown up with, or experienced something larger than life together. But if the love isn’t there, it’s not. It’s better to be honest about these things than live a farce. These are 12 ways to tell if you're falling out of love with a friend.
You Don’t Have Their Back
You Hope They Cancel
You Ignore Their Calls
You just feel like talking less and less. When they call you either ignore it or pick it up and say you're in a rush. You have no interest in getting involved in a long conversation with them. You're too checked out.
You Always Have An Excuse
You might not realize that you're making excuses while they're happening, but chances are, you're using everything in the book to avoid committing to a plan with your bestie. You probably half-accept plans, but are sure to mention a variable that might come in the way of the plans so that you have an out if you need it.
If Something Else Comes Up, You Cancel
Because your bestie isn't your priority anymore, you don't like making plans far in advance. You find yourself only reaching out to your bestie when all else fails or nothing else is going on. And you better believe the second an opportunity comes up with someone else, you cancel on your bestie.
You Tell Your Other Friends You’re Not Close
You Find Yourself Assuring Them
You Feel Guilty
They’re No Longer Charming
You’re Not Rooting For Them
You Don’t Want To Deal With Them
Your Answers Are Terse
Your bestie has probably asked you a few times if you're in a bad mood or mad at them and you've probably said no. Because you don't want to deal with talking about it, but you can't help but be short. The love you had for them is so far gone, it's all yeses and nos and no elaboration for you.