13 Things Not To Beat Yourself Up For Splurging On
In my early 20s, I was constantly beating myself up for one thing after the other. I was either spending money on things I didn't need, or overindulging in social engagements. I was so worried I might miss out on something that I said yes to everything. And then I'd feel guilty. I'd be mad at myself for not reserving enough time for sleep, enough time for peace, and enough money for savings. It felt like I was burning the candle at both ends.
But in my late 20s, my mentality shifted. I stopped getting upset with myself for enjoying my life. Sure, there will always be things I can cut back on, it's very important to get your finances in order and start saving at this age, but ordering sushi after a long day of work is not the end of the world. And giving up sleep to spend time with a friend who needs you is a worthwhile sacrifice.
It's all about balance and learning what you want to do vs. what you need to do. This will take some trial and error. In my experience, the following are things you shouldn't beat yourself up over. They're minor splurges and can be worth it in the long run.
A Day Of Nothingness
Sometimes you just need to toss your phone across the room and do nothing all day. After eight hours of binge-watching TV you might start to feel really shameful and guilty, don't. It's OK to burn out for a day and be alone. You do you, girl.
Missing A Birthday Party
When you're in your 20s, it can seem like someone's having a birthday party every single day. You can't possibly make it to everyone's party. Some parties you'll just have to sit out and indulge in saying "No, thank you."
Going On A Bachelorette Trip
Sometimes these trips can seem like an exorbitant waste of money. Do you really need to travel across the country just to drink in another city? Once or twice, say yes. Splurge on the adventure and keep the memories forever.
Ordering Take Out When You Have Groceries
If you get home after a really long and stressful day at work and don't have the energy to put together a meal that's already basically sitting in the fridge, don't beat yourself up, just order in. Be sure not to make habit of it — it's still terrible to waste food and money — but sometimes, you just need dinner to show up at your door, hot and ready to eat.
Going To Town On That Sundae
You had been eyeing that extra-large volcano sundae on the dessert menu for over an hour. You know it will probably give you a stomach ache and make you feel like crap the next day, but you can't help it, you order it. Let it be! It's OK to enjoy something extravagant sometimes. Life is too short not to order that sundae.
Buying Yet Another Pair Of Shoes
Lots of women have nonsensical collections of shoes that they never wear. If you've just splurged and added a pair you really didn't need, find a way to incorporate them into your wardrobe. You shoe size isn't going to change, so you'll get use out of them somehow.
Ordering Any Wine Other Than The Cheapest
Picking the cheapest wine can be a waste of money if you don't like what you get. Once in a while, splurge and get the drink you really want. If you enjoy it, it's worth the indulgence.
Pulling An All-Nighter Catching Up With A Friend
Never beat yourself up for losing sleep over a friend. You have your whole life to catch up on sleep, friends are much more precious. Pull as many all nighters as you can.
Buying Bed Sheets That Won't Fall Apart In The Wash
Bed sheets are surprisingly expensive. If you're having buyer's remorse, relax. If you bought quality sheets you'll end up keeping them for years. You might even sleep better.
Buying Fresh Make Up
Sometimes make up can feel like an unnecessary expense. But if you wear it regularly, it's good to update your supply every few months. Wearing old make up can lead to the spread of bacteria and other irritations.
Taking A Taxi When You Don't Need To
We've all been there — there's a subway a block away that will take you home for a handful of quarters, but your feet hurt, you're tired, and you're dreaming about taking a taxi. Just do it. Don't do it every night, but do it once in a while.
Buying The Hardcover Because You Can't Wait For Paperback
Books come out in hardcover first, which is more expensive than paperback. If you've been waiting for a book to come out and can't bear to wait for the cheaper paperback version to hit stores, six months later, I don't blame you. You can always sell it back to a book store and make a few dollars off of it. Just don't write it in!
Spending Too Much Money On Gifts For Family
Making the people you care about feel loved and thought about is priceless. Don't blow all of your money on gifts, but if you spend a little more than you planned for a great gift for a loved one, let it be. Giving is never a bad idea.