If you've ever had a friends with benefits, you know how great this situation can be. You know each other and there's intimacy, but there may be less pressure, less expectations, and less awkwardness. Queefs? Fine. Boob sweat? Who cares. You break their penis? OK, try to avoid that one.
Sure, they're not for everyone, but as astrologer Mecca Woods of MyLifeCreated.com points out, "Sometimes a legit FWB situation could be just the thing you need if you’re in between relationships, too busy for a relationship, or not looking for the emotional investment of a relationship but still want to have sex with someone you trust."
And the great thing about friends with benefits is that you can try anything — and that includes sex positions. The best sex positions for friends with benefits are the ones that go best with a packet of Oreos and an entire pizza. Or with gossip about your mutual friends. It's a great kind of sex — because it's chilled out, but also you can try some things that are a little out there with no fear of humiliation. You can share your fantasies and actually demand what you want in bed, without worrying that you're going to hurt each other. But you can also be having sex so hungover and not showered that you really shouldn't be allowed to touch another human, yet somehow you persevere. The possibilities are endless, so follow your dreams. And then shower.
So here are seven positions to try with your friends with benefits, because it's really when anything goes. (Remember, these sex positions can be done with two women as well.)
1. Standing Rear Entry
How To Do It: Slowly. Carefully. After stretching. You spread your legs as much as you need to to line up, then bend over as your partner you. Also, lube.
Why It's Great For Friends With Benefits: Because you are 98 percent going to fall over the first time you try this, so don't you want someone you can laugh it off with?
2. Sofa Brace
How To Do It: Just like the name suggests, lean over the end of a safe and brace yourself with your arms. Meanwhile, your partner enters you just like traditional doggy.
Why It's Great For Friends With Benefits: Because you probably want to have sex all over the house, plus it's a great position for really deep penetration.
How To Do It: Lie front to back, with you as high up as you need to be so your partner has access. Then your partner slowly enters you (lube will help), while one of you plays with you clit.
Why It's Great For Friends With Benefits: Because it's the perfect position for lazy-hangover-sex or watching-30 Rock-sex. The dream.
4. On Top
How To Do It: With your partner lying down or propped up, straddle them and then lower yourself onto them. Then you can bounce, grind, or reverse as you please.
Why It's Great For Friends With Benefits: Because a classic is still a classic. And friend with benefits is such an empowered, sex-positive setup, you should have an empowered position to go with it.
5. Coital Alignment Technique
How To Do It: Like missionary, but with you slightly higher up and your legs wrapped around them. Don't be afraid to play with your clit.
Why It's Great For Friends With Benefits: Because it's a great position for orgasm, and with a chilled friends with benefits set up there's nothing stopping you from getting exactly what you want.
6. Kneeling Reach Around
How To Do It: A variation on doggy style, you can finger her from behind or wrap around play with her clitoris— hands and toys are both totally acceptable.
Why It's Great For Friends With Benefits: Because doggy is such a great position for casual hookup. It's animalistic, gives you lots of room to play with your hands, and is just really fun.
7. Advanced Crab Walk
How To Do It: Be brave and be bold. No seriously, it's a toughy. Your partner rests back on their hands with their legs bent, you lower yourself onto them and then put one angle on a time on their shoulders. Then grind away.
Why It's Great For Friends With Benefits: This is a batsh*t crazy position. Absolutely mental. And you're probably going to fall, miss, and fart a bit trying to make it happen. It requires a lot of forgiveness, but will be awesome if you're up for a challenge. Basically, it's the perfect position to high five your friend with benefits after you get it right.
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