A first date can be thrilling, anxiety-producing, and/or mind-numbingly boring — all in the course of one night. From the moment you meet IRL to starting your first conversation to the inevitable end-of-the-night (or morning) farewell, there are a thousand possible pitfalls. A new BuzzFeed video details 14 struggles of a first date, and they are oh-so-real.
Awkward silences are the bane of a good date's existence. If there's a massive hole in the conversation that just can't be filled, it's likely you're not the best match — or nerves are really getting the best of you. I once dated a wildly hot guy who was so freaking boring I had to make notes in my phone about what we could discuss before realizing maaaaybe conversation should flow a little easier — or I should be content with quiet — if it was going to work. As Uma Thurman's character in Pulp Fiction notes: "That's when you know you've found somebody special. When you can just shut the f*ck up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence."
Of course, there are dozens of other first date phenomena featured in this video that can trip you up too, from trying to order food that isn't too messy to eat in front of another human (although Lady and The Tramp spaghetti moments can be hot), to not revealing how much you've stalked someone on social media (but isn't that kinda a compliment?)