9 Confidence Hacks For First Dates

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As much as dating can be fun, it can be scary, too. Even if you’re the smoothest cat on the block, first date jitters are a real thing. I mean, it’s not easy to try to sell yourself to a stranger. In fact, first dates can feel just as difficult as a job interview, as you list out all the reasons you’d be a good fit for your date (I’m really witty!), your exemplary assets (I can write a song about you!), and what you could bring to a possible relationship (I’m really good at communicating!). And that’s just if you’re interested; if you’re not, then it’s even trickier (How the hell am I going to get out of here? Fake food poisoning although we both ordered the same thing?).

Basically, first dates can be awkward AF, but they’re also a must that can’t be avoided if you’re looking for love. So how does one handle having a first date that doesn’t end in a horror story? Well, you learn what works, what doesn’t, and where to find the necessary confidence to make that first date a breeze — or at least as breezy as a first date can be.

Thomas Edwards, founder of The Professional Wingman, has a great confidence hack for when you're talking to someone new: “Assume everyone loves you,” Edwards tells Bustle. Basically, treat them like they're someone you already know to erase those nerves.

Not sure where to find the confidence for your next first date? No worries; it might be easier than you think.

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