1. It's The Perfect Time To Figure Out What You Really Want
Not only does it feel like national disasters and crises are happening all over the world (and in our own country), but Donald Trump is going to be president. WTF is it even going to look like? How will that affect women? It's a great time to figure out what you really want and what's best for you, even when it comes to your love life. “I think being single is an exercise that every person should go through at some point in their adult life. It is a time that gives us the distance and clarity that we need to get to know who we truly are as a person, and to firmly define what it is that we want in a future partner,” psychologist Dr. Nikki Martinez tells Bustle. Whether you need a life change or just want to join the fight for women's rights, it's time to feel empowered as a single woman.
2. Travel Is Cheap — And You're Free To Go For It
Airlines prices keep getting cheaper and January is a great time to fly. Travel is so good for you— and it's just plain fun— so take advantage of it in 2017. When you're single, it's so much easier to do. “You can go and have any experience you want, whenever you want, and not have to worry about what someone else wants,” Martinez says. “This is the time to travel on your own, to take a class just for fun, to do as many activities that you want, as you will not always have the chance to just pick up and do what you feel like. It is not that a partner holds you back, it is that in good relationships, you make decisions as a couple.” The new year is the perfect opportunity to take advantage of being the only person you're accountable to.
3. It's A Great Time To Experiment Sexually
Not that you can't experiment in a relationship, but when you're having casual sex there's a freedom that means you are more open about suggesting and trying new things. The good news? Today, sex is different than it used to be. The orgasm gap is closing and people are more and more concerned with women's pleasure. So could you think of a better time to be sowing some wild oats?
4. More People Are Accepting Being Single As A Life Choice
Ten years ago, most people I know thought they'd be married right now. But I look around and a lot of my friends don't want that anymore. In the 21st century, being in a relationship doesn't have to be the default— and more people are accepting that. We're realizing that not every relationship is a good relationship. In fact, the Bureau of Labor Statistics found that unmarried people now make up 50.2 percent of the population, which means we have more unmarried woman than ever before. And research shows that a third of millennials will probably never marry, so it looks like we could be seeing an even bigger trend toward singledom in the younger generation.
"I'd rather be single, in a comfortable relationship with myself, than trapped in a dysfunctional, toxic relationship with someone else," certified relationship coach Rosalind Sedacca tells Bustle. And a lot of other people feel the same. So you can really own your choice to be single in 2017.
5. And A Lot Of Women Are Loving It
It's more than just avoiding bad relationships. Far from the horrific spinster stereotype, research has showed that more women feel happy about singledom than men do. “I think it is true that women are empowered to cultivate emotional resources that make them more able to be happy while single,” dating coach and certified matchmaker Francesca Hogi tells Bustle. “For many men, their outlets for emotional intimacy and expression are limited to romantic relationships. Generally speaking, women have emotional intimacy with their friends and their partners and most men only have it with their partners. So it makes sense that without a relationship, many men are missing out on a key emotional experience.”
Not only that, a study presented at the American Psychological Association's Annual Convention that looked at previous research from over 800 studies found that single women actually have more fulfilling lives than married people, in part because they experience more psychological growth and development. So it's time we start celebrating the happiness that comes from being single.