8 Mistakes You are Making on First Dates
People aren’t perfect. They make mistakes. This applies in the dating world as well. Dating can be fun and exciting, but it can also be nerve-wracking and confusing, at times.
Unless you’re a pro at dating, you may have committed one of these mistakes. Or, if you’ve ever been on a bad date (who hasn’t), you have witnessed someone else mess up. Check yourself, if you are guilty of any of these dating crimes.
Ah, the oversharer. This is the person who shares just a bit too much. When dating, you want to put your best foot forward. This probably does not involve telling your first-time date about that time you made out with three guys at a bar. Or how often you constantly stalk your ex’s Instagram. Some things should be left unsaid. If you’re questioning if you should tell that story, it’s probably a sign you shouldn’t.
No one likes a negative Nancy — especially on a date. It’s one thing to have a negative opinion about something, but it’s another to complain complain complain. No one wants to have a glass of wine with a glass-half-empty person. Think before you speak, and find a different outlet for these feelings.
Coming on Too Strong
Being strong is sexy. But, coming on too strong is a whole other story. It’s perfectly normal to feel a connection right away with a date. Usually, when you’re feeling it, so is the other person.
But be cautious with how you speak your mind. In other words, you don’t need to tell your date you’re in love with them after dinner No. 1. Or, you don’t need to talk about what your children’s names will be. These are serious topics and should not be taken lightly. It’s important to express yourself, but tread lightly.
Nobody likes extra baggage. Sure, everybody has baggage. But not everybody needs to discuss this on a first date. Your date does not want to hear you complaining about how your ex never bought you flowers. When it comes to baggage — it’s fine to have bags, but don’t go opening them up and showing your dirty laundry to your date.
Yeah, we all have the idea of a “perfect” mate. But, the reality is that no one person can meet all of our expectations. There is a thing as being too picky. If you notice after you go on a date that you are trying to figure out what is wrong with the person, rather than what is right — you are guilty of being a fault finder.
Me, Myself, and Me
Dating is about getting to know another person. It’s not about your date only getting to know about you. A great date should feel like a ping pong match, where you both are talking back and forth. If you notice you have been chatting for far too long, you may be a little too into yourself, instead of your date. Lighten up on the you-talk, and get to know the person you are there to spend time with.
The Next Person
In today’s society, people want things to be bigger and better. Sadly, this occurs in dating as well. Because of social media and dating websites, you can always see what is out there. That gives people the notion that someone out there could be better. However, if you are always onto the next one, you might not be seeing what’s right in front of you. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
Not Being Honest
Honesty is always the best policy, but people don’t always follow this rule in the dating game. There are many ways this is seen. Some people fib on their online dating profiles. I mean, have you ever been on a date where the person looked nothing like their photo?! Another way people lie is through their communication. For instance, do not say, “I had such a great time tonight. We should do this again sometime,” if you do not wish to see that person again. Always be honest with people from the get-go. It saves everyone a lot of energy and time.
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