Dating isn't easy. When you add navigating dating apps to the mix, it just gets even more complicated. Sounds a bit like a nightmare, right? Dating apps can be intimidating and overwhelming, but once you get in the swing of things, it all can be quite fun. No matter what you're looking for, there's a dating app for you. You know that phrase, "there's an app for that"? Well, that's the truth when it comes to dating as well. From only wanting to hook up to finding friends in a new city to finding your soulmate — you can do it all in the privacy of your own home (and better yet, in the privacy of your own phone).
With this easy access, there’s bound to be some mistakes made along the way. It’s not like these apps give you a “how-to” manual before you download them. Other than going off of your friend’s advice, how are you to know if you’re doing the dating app justice, and really getting the most out of the entire experience? Are you putting up the right pictures? Are you giving off the best impression of yourself? How can you even trust the person you are talking to? You don’t want to waste your time. So, if you’re going to do it, you want to do it right.
1. Using Too Many Apps
There can be too much of a good thing, especially when it comes to dating apps. I understand that you would want to try out all the apps to see what they have to offer. The negative side of this is that it causes you to become overwhelmed and not actually mean anybody. You're not going to remember specifics of any person you're talking to because you'll end up chatting with too many matches. It makes sense that you would want to increase your chances of meeting someone by increasing the amount of dating apps you have. However, this only leads to more confusion and too much on your dating plate. Try out one at a time and you'll be more focused.
2. Not Choosing The Right App For You
It's hard to know which dating site or app is going to be the best for you. You might feel a little like Goldilocks — nothing fits just right. That's why you need to research what each app offers before you go full force into it. If you're looking for just a hookup, maybe use an app where the other users are searching for that same thing. If you're looking for something more serious, you may want to front some money to get the desired effects. All apps have their downfalls and their pros, so it's crucial you are fully aware of what you are getting yourself into.
3. Going MIA For Too Long
If you're going to be online dating or dating through an app, you will want to keep up with it. I don't mean that you have to be on the app 24/7, but you should be actively using it. If you're talking to someone that you're interested in, waiting a week in between conversations will only make this preliminary love fade out. What's different about dating with an app is that people want things faster. Therefore, you've got to be fast with your phone and your heart. To keep up with the Joneses, you're going to need to keep up with the apps.
4. Too Fast, Too Furious
This might be a good movie, but it's for sure not a helpful tactic when it comes to dating with an app. Have you ever swiped too fast, and possibly swiped the love of your life? Don't let this happen to you! Take care with your potential matches. Don't judge a book by it's profile picture. Read over his or her profile and see their qualities. If you're going to go just off of looks, then here's to hoping he or she looks exactly like his or her picture.
5. Putting Quantity Over Quality
Quality should always win over quantity. In terms of dating with an app, you might think the more people you're talking to the better, but you'll be sadly mistaken. Would you rather have 10 boring and bland cookies or one amazing and delicious cookie? I think we both know the answer. No matter what you're looking for, you still want the best of the best for you. Therefore, you get what you put out, so put out some good ol' quality.
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