Communication in a relationship comes easier to some couples than others. While some people may stay up late sharing every detail about themselves, others let information about their past come out in dribs and drabs. But, at some point, it’s crucial to get those lines of communication open. “Healthy communication in a relationship is important because it is the foundation of any partnership,” dating expert and matchmaker Sarah Patt tells Bustle. “Having the confidence to talk openly with your partner, regardless of whether the subject matter is positive or negative, is one of the true signs that you and your partner are practicing healthy communication. Listening, actually hearing what your partner is saying, and processing and responding without reacting overly emotionally is a sign that you are truly understanding what your partner has to say to you."
But what if you can’t get your partner to open up? Well, it’s all about asking them the right questions. If someone has a hard time discussing their past and you jump right in and demand they start sharing, there's a good chance they'll feel uncomfortable and shut down. If you want to find out more about your partner and their past, you can ease into it through subtle questions. Here are some questions that experts say can help them to open up.