11 Signs Your Partner Was Raised By A Toxic Mom

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While everybody's parents made mistakes, went through tough times, or didn't always know the exact right thing to do, some people were raised by truly toxic parents, and it can show. If your partner's mom is toxic, the effect she had on them may still be sticking around — even years later. And it may even be dragging down your relationship.

That's why it can be helpful to recognize these signs, not only to better understand why your partner acts the way they do, but also so you can be a better partner yourself, and help them through it.

Which, of course, is totally possible to do. "While we are all products of our parents, it’s very possible to overcome their negative influence and live happy, independent lives," Jonathan Bennett, certified counselor and co-founder of Double Trust Dating and Relationships, tells Bustle. "But, it will require a lot of effort and courage."

And it may take a lot of time, too. "Expecting someone who spent [their] formative years with a toxic parent to change overnight is unrealistic," Bennett says. In order to heal, your partner may need to cut off contact with their mom, make amends, seek therapy, or learn how to see through world through a healthier lens. Here are a few signs experts say may mean your partner was raised by a toxic mom, as well as what you both can do about it.