11 Thoughts That Mean You’re Not As Happy With Your Partner As You Might Think


Even if your current dating situation seems to be going well — you're hanging out, having fun, having sex, etc. — it's still possible that you might not be happy with your partner, and thus not truly happy in your relationship. This can be a gut feeling, where you just know it isn't right. But it can also be revealed by several nagging thoughts that mean you're not as happy as you think.

"Usually these types of thoughts are windows into your true feelings about your partner," certified counselor Jonathan Bennett tells Bustle. For example, if you cringe when your partner texts you, or really want to cancel your date-night plans, then it might be a sign that your heart's not in it. But, thoughts like these might also mean you're just not having your needs met, so you're feeling a bit upset or resentful as a result.

Luckily, there is a way to tell the difference. "I’d recommend exploring those thoughts and being honest with yourself," Bennett says. "Examining the doubts and questions can give you great insight into parts of the relationship that might not be working or need changing. Or, it could mean that it’s time to move on. But, simply pretending that everything is perfect won’t make you happy in the long run." Here, a few thoughts experts say may mean you aren't, actually, all that happy.