11 Women Share Their Worst Negging Stories On Reddit & You Will Face Palm Forever
Negging has to be one of the lowest forms of communication — and one of the most manipulative ways of trying to attract someone. If you're not familiar with negging as a dating technique, it's essentially giving someone a negative jab to make them feel insecure and, therefore, more grateful for your attention. It might have a backhanded complimented tied in, like: "Wow, you're really brave to wear a shirt like that." Negging came from a controversial dating handbook for men called The Game — and has been messing with people ever since.
"[Negging] is a harmful way to treat another person because it demonstrates a contempt for the other person and their feelings," Christine Baumgartner, dating/relationship coach at The Perfect Catch, tells Bustle. "It is dismissive and degrading to the other person and can eventually undermine their self-confidence. Usually the person doing the negging is insecure in their ability to attract [someone] without putting them down. They also don’t feel ‘good enough’ on their own: they need to put other people down in order to feel better about themselves."
It's ridiculous, but it happens all the time. In fact, a recent AskReddit thread had users sharing their negging stories. Here are some of the worst negs, because some people just want to watch the world burn.
1. This Unnecessary Commentary
That's either the worst neg ever or a very open admittance of a preference, but either way just STFU.
2. This Faux Surprise
Acting surprised that a woman is smart? That's sure to work for you every time, right?
3. This Attempt To Stir Up The Competition
4. This Desperate Ploy
5. This (Lack Of) Love At First Sight
This is such a bizarre and niche way to neg someone.
6. This Total Trainwreck
7. This Arrogannce
8. This Condescending Nonsense
10. This Series Of Failure
So many terrible, terrible options there. There may be fish in the sea, but there is also a lot of trash.