People always talk about wanting to get more turned on for sex with their partners. But then, it's often completely random things that actually end up turning us on. Similar to the way orgasms show up when you're least expecting them but not when you're pursuing them, it's one of those great ironies of sex.
"Fantasies play an important role in our lives, as they offer a form of escapism from the everyday," Astroglide's Resident Sexologist Dr. Jess O'Reilly tells Bustle. "Fantasies may offer a glimpse into the thematic elements of your real-life desires, but it’s important to note that sexual fantasies often include acts, people, and scenarios that we’d never want to pursue in real life."
In other words, there's no need to judge or even try to make sense of what turns you on — or to act on that arousal. Our turn-ons are often completely random and absurd. We can bring them up with our partners, stash them away to fantasize about during future masturbation sessions, or just forget about altogether. And what arouses us at one point in time might not arouse us at another.
In case you were wondering if the things that have turned you on were "normal", I asked 12 people to tell me the unexpected things that have turned them on. Here's what they said.