Being in love can make you see your partner through rose-colored glasses; it’s easy to overlook someone’s negative qualities when you’re head over heels for them. No relationship is perfect, and we all have to make compromises. But when things do go wrong in a relationship, people often blame themselves, which can make it easy to overlook warning signs that your partner may not love you the way you deserve.
“People minimize or downplay how hurt they are by things, how ignored they feel, how neglected or undervalued they feel,” Nicole Richardson, licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Bustle. “They might not understand the depth of their feelings or be able to put words to it [...] people a lot of times don’t know how to have conflict constructively, so they shut down and stop talking all together. That’s a great recipe for disaster.”
This lack of communication is one main reason Richardson sees relationships break down. Without communication, it’s difficult for couples to get to the root of the problem, and move forward. But a break down doesn’t necessarily mean you have to break up. If you find your partner doesn’t love you the way you deserve, there are ways to mend a relationship.
If you’re struggling in your relationship, look for some of these warning signs to see if you need to re-evaluate things with your partner.