Whenever I have friends who are going through dry spells in their relationship, stress is almost always to blame. Now, it doesn't have to ruin your sex life — not even close. But stress can affect your sex life in a very direct way. Though the stress can come from a lot of different places, it's always good to go back to the basics of a relationship. And that means communicating about it.
“As always, communication is preferred; while it seems juvenile, many couples experience unnecessary stress due to a lack of communication,” author and relationship expert Alexis Nicole White tells Bustle. “Communicating with your mate can simply mean to just listen. Be attentive, by demonstrating that you have heard what they’ve said by doing something to signal to them that you have heard them. If something is bothering them, do something to correct that irritation in their lives.”
But like I said, stress can come from — and manifest itself — in so many different ways. So for some people it may cause anxiety in the bedroom, for some it may mean you don't even want to have sex at all, and for some it can mean an inability to focus. If you can't quite put your finger on what's going on in your sex life, try to think of how you might be stressed. Here are some of the possibilities: