There's lots of debate over whether we have one soulmate, there are multiple soulmates, or the whole concept of soulmates is made up. Another possibility is that we only have one, but we have more spiritual matches, psychic Deborah Graham, host of SiriusXM's "The Psychic Connection" and author of Get Your Head Out of Your App: A Psychic's Guide to Attracting and Keeping True Love, tells Bustle. Even if your partner is not your forever, they could be spiritually destined to be with you right now.
"When you find your spiritual match, you will experience a feeling like you’ve never felt before," says Graham. "This is a real feeling and not something invented by and simply for romantic movies. But this relationship will be far from simple — or easy." This person may be a twin flame, as Graham calls it, who came to this world with the intention of being with you forever. Or, it could be someone who's there to love you and teach you something for a short amount of time. Either way, the relationship's worthwhile.
Here are some signs that your partner is spiritually destined to be with you, at least right now.
1You Have A Weird Telepathic Connection
You may complete each other's sentences or dream the same dream, says Graham. This is an indication that you are connected on a psychic level.
2They Feel Familiar
You may feel mysteriously comfortable around a spiritual match right off the bat. "Meeting them is like coming home," says Graham. "There isn’t a feeling of newness, but instead a high level of understanding and familiarity."
3They Bring Out Your True Self
A spiritual match will not only understand and appreciate who you are but also help you discover and love who you are. "Your souls know each other, they make sense to each other," says Graham. "You get each other as the result of a timeless connection. You learn more about yourself through being with them, your heart feels free."
4You Get Butterflies Around Them
This could be your soul's way of signaling that this person is destined to play a special role in your life, says Graham.
5The Relationship Scares You
If you're scared of commitment, you might be afraid of your spiritual match because you know how big a deal it is and how much there is to lose, says Graham. But if you push through this fear, you'll likely find that the risk was worth it.
"What leads to the breakup in these types of relationships is that both parties are not ready for the feelings, draw, and sensation that come with this connection," says Graham. "[But] if ready, these types of relationships are designed to bring out the best in both involved."