Last month, I was on the opposite side of the world from my partner and feeling — how shall I say it — horny. My mind began to go wild imagining what we could do once we reunited. I'd gotten into the habit of sexting him my filthy fantasies, and this time, I made a proposal: "I want to give you two blowjobs a day." I was so turned on by this thought, my imagination ran with it, and soon, I was writing a four-page erotic story titled, you guessed it, "Two Blowjobs a Day."
"I wrote you a story," I emailed him. "I hope you enjoy it. I'd love to enact it next time I see you." He replied, "I read it and I loved it. It made me horny as hell!" Just my goal. Spoiler alert: We didn't actually enact the story. I think it would've been a bit much for both of us. But just writing that down and sharing it with him changed my life. I got so into writing erotica, both for my partner and for myself, I began writing regularly for Quinn, a new platform where women can both find erotica and share their own.
Experts agree that sharing fantasies can do a lot to boost your sex life. "Start positive and be open to the conversation being a way of sexually exploring between the two of you," psychosexual & relationship therapist Kate Moyle, tells Bustle. And erotica lets you share your fantasies in detail. Here are some ways that writing erotica improved my own sex life — both solo and partnered — and might improve yours, too.