6 Past Relationship Issues That Might Be Affecting The One You're Currently In

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It's a common story: when you exit one relationship, the next one can seem like a potential time-bomb until the same problems from before show up. And it's an all-too-familiar feeling, waiting for your new partner to display the same hurtful behavior of your ex. So, how do you move on from a past relationship, and prevent past issues from affecting your current relationship?

"Our own perceptions of other people cloud our view of the relationship," Jennifer B. Rhodes, licensed psychologist, tells Bustle. "Previous hurt and pain either from our family or other relationships is the biggest reason why people develop negative mindsets around relationships in general. We all need to do our healing work and get to a place where we can see our behavior and our partner’s behavior in a positive light."

A good way to tell if pain from a past relationship is still affecting your current relationship is to pay attention to the types of fights you and your partner have. "Typically, when people are holding onto past issues there is a fair amount of arguing about things they aren’t really upset about," Nicole Richardson, Licensed Professional Counselor and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, tells Bustle. "Often, they are so focused on the immediate issue they don’t even realize there is a deeper hurt at play so it can be really difficult to address."

So, if you can't shake the past, here are seven common issues that may still be affecting your relationship, and how to move past them.